The college student I regularly see wants to get her own place in Osaka City. If someone you see regularly and are close with told you they were moving, would you help cover moving expenses or other costs? Or would you just say, “Oh, I see,” and leave it at that?
I’m Kazu, a male member.
If she moves because she wants to, I wouldn’t cover the cost, even if we’re already in an arrangement where I give her an allowance. I might give her something as a housewarming gift, though.
But if I asked her to live alone so I could call her over whenever I wanted—in other words, if I were making her move for my own convenience—I’d pay the expenses.
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I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.”
If you’re not in the Tokyo area, moving into a place of your own shouldn’t cost all that much.
If you’re seeing each other on good terms, I think it’s only natural that even if moving comes up, you wouldn’t ask the other person to cover the costs.
With a money gouger, though, they’ll keep squeezing you for as much as they can, so be careful…
As for me, most of the girls I’ve liked—including the one I’m currently seeing—have moved at some point. I’ve helped them look for apartments, move their belongings, and so on, but with the girls I’m still seeing, the subject of moving expenses has never come up. The girls whose moving costs I covered in full, or even partially, didn’t stay in my life for very long afterward.
Based on my experience, I’d avoid anyone who expects you to cover the entire cost. If she’s genuinely in a difficult situation, you can help with part of it; otherwise, if she brings it up at all, I’d pass. In Osaka City, I think you can manage a move within the allowance.
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I’m a man in my 60s and feeling a little lost.
We’re in our third year of seeing each other. Around the time COVID started spreading and her part-time shifts were cut back, she suddenly told me she was planning to move out and live on her own.
I asked whether she’d be okay financially now that she had left the papa-katsu platform, but she said she had decided to start living alone from her third year of university and had been saving up since before we began seeing each other, so she wanted to try managing on her own.
So I simply told her, “I see. Good luck!”
Our relationship hasn’t changed at all since then. If anything, it seems even better now (lol).
Actually, there was just one time when she contacted me saying things were a little difficult, and I gave her a small amount of support.
Wouldn’t it be best to respect her wishes?
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Ayase Nana ♡
I’d be happy if you offered, but since you haven’t seen each other that many times, I’d feel bad accepting it…
Are you the only papa (male supporter) she has?
If not, wouldn’t an amount equivalent to a housewarming gift be enough?
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