I’m Shnigo Lee (Shingori), a male member.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with your motivation.
That said, even if people understand the reality, hearing it expressed so bluntly can be a little off-putting, don’t you think? Since you’re going to say it anyway, why not add a little more “framing”?
For example, calling “saving money” “building savings for peace of mind” makes people feel a little more inclined to support you, doesn’t it? Or you could say something like “building assets for personal fulfillment.”
This kind of technique is called “positive reframing.”
You seem like a very honest and straightforward person, but I think it’s worth learning techniques like this, as long as they don’t cross the line into lying.
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I’m Ayase Nana, a female member.
Saving money is a wonderful goal. You never know when you might no longer be able to work, or when you might suddenly want to buy something really expensive, so make sure to save as much as you can while you’re able to. I’m rooting for you!
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t see any problem with using your savings. You may have ideas like “I want to support women” or “I want to help women achieve their dreams,” but those are just nice-sounding platitudes.
The only reason I can think of for losing interest would be feeling like she wants to spend the money on other men.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the President’s Office as well.
Even if a profile includes the reason someone joined and so on, I get the impression that most men don’t pay much attention to it.
I think it’s probably because they feel they won’t really know unless they meet her and ask in person.
Also, there seem to be relatively few men who want to support a woman’s dreams. More often, they simply provide an allowance in exchange for companionship.
If that’s the case, the main red flags would probably be things like:
- Spending money on a host
- Having a large amount of debt
I also wonder if men dislike the idea of the allowance they worked hard to provide simply passing straight through her hands and going elsewhere.
This is something I haven’t heard much about from male members, so I may be a little off the mark…
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