I’m having trouble making sense of these strange feelings I’ve been having lately, so I wanted to ask for some advice.
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Before joining the club, in my everyday life, it was completely unthinkable for me to become intimate with a man on the same day I met him. But since I started doing this, I’ve found myself becoming intimate with male supporters that same day with little to no resistance, and perhaps because I’ve met dozens of men, it’s started to feel normal to me.
Now, on an ordinary private date, I sometimes find it a little unsatisfying when things don’t progress that day.
When I go on private dates with someone outside the club, I’ve started to feel strangely unsettled when we go on several dates without becoming intimate. Even with someone I’m slightly interested in at work, it feels almost fresh that things don’t quickly progress to an intimate relationship despite seeing each other so often (though we only see each other normally while working together at the office). I find myself thinking, “We see each other this much, yet nothing happens—that’s kind of amazing…”
Before joining the club, I wouldn’t have found it strange at all that seeing a coworker every day didn’t lead to that kind of relationship. But now I’m having feelings I don’t really understand, and I can’t sort them out. Is it simply because my sex drive is strong…???
I’m BB7, a male member.
Since the Meiji era, Western Christian ideas have made sex seem sacred.
But when a man and a woman fall for each other, sex is where things naturally lead. Sex was never meant to be anything particularly special.
People have simply turned it into something special by idealizing it in their minds as love and romance.
That’s why the world feels so suffocating.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
At a dating club, money is part of the arrangement, so depending on the relationship type, both members already share the understanding that “an adult relationship (intimate) may happen from the very first day.”
Outside dating clubs, becoming intimate can lead to people being labeled as having an affair or being a player, and that reputation can directly affect how they’re viewed afterward. I think that’s why people are in an environment where they can’t act so casually.
We all live within different frameworks, so I think it’s best to consider the feelings you’re experiencing separately, according to the context in which you’re dating or meeting each person.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Since relationships at a dating club involve money, members share the same understanding that, depending on the relationship type, “an adult relationship (intimate) may happen from the very first day.”
Outside dating clubs, becoming intimate can lead to rumors about having an affair or being a player, which can directly affect how that person is viewed afterward. I think that creates an environment where people can’t act so casually.
We all live within different frameworks, so I think you should consider the feelings you’re experiencing in the context of each individual relationship or setting in which you’re seeing someone.
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I’m Nana Ayase, one of the female members ♡
Isn’t that perfectly fine? As for “ordinary” men, your body is still largely unexplored.
What was it like being intimate with different men? Did any of them feel so good that just being with them left your body feeling completely different?
If you meet someone like that, don’t let him go. You’ll become even more beautiful.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office as well.
In the past, people used to say things like, “You should remain chaste until marriage,” or that a woman who had been intimate before marriage was “damaged.”
But times have changed.
These days, it seems more common to believe that sexual compatibility is important, so you should make sure you’re compatible before getting married.
With that in mind, I don’t think there’s anything particularly strange about being intimate first.
Especially when it comes to intimacy, you may get to see sides of someone they had been hiding. That can help you discover their good qualities, but the opposite can happen too—you may realize that someone you thought was a good person is actually different from what you expected.
There’s also the expression “bare-it-all relationships.” I believe it originally referred to relationships between men, but I think getting physically intimate can help a man and woman understand each other better as well.
Maybe the old way of thinking was simply outdated, and today’s view is more suited to the times.
I don’t know which way of thinking is truly right, but at least nowadays, this seems like a fairly reasonable way to look at things.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I think the simple difference is that this is a club where people achieve their goals through money.
Even so, I believe that awakening to and exploring your body will help you maintain meaningful relationships later on with a boyfriend or husband.
Many women never fully discover their bodies, never develop an interest in doing so, or learn about it too late to fully explore it. That’s why I think reaching the world you now know is something truly valuable.
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I’m in Seattle.
You got to enjoy two sides of yourself, so you came out ahead, didn’t you? Let’s keep going at this pace.
But make sure you save some money.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Aside from risks like pregnancy and illness, I don’t think sex is really that big a deal. Maybe the questioner has simply come to realize that.
The reason people often don’t end up becoming intimate when dating outside the club is probably that they’re afraid of damaging the relationship by trying to move things in that direction too soon. At the club, there’s a clear indicator—the relationship type—that tells you when it’s appropriate to suggest an adult relationship (intimate). Outside the club, there’s no such guideline.
And if you’re coworkers, trying to push things toward an adult relationship can easily lead to serious trouble, especially if things go badly.
In other words, people are hesitant to become intimate outside the club because they’re worried about how it might affect their relationship afterward.
At a club, you meet someone you have no other connection to, with the understanding that you may become intimate if you hit it off, so there’s no need to worry about those consequences. That’s probably why people use dating clubs.
It’s not an issue with the questioner’s sex drive. Social considerations simply change people’s behavior inside and outside the club. I think that’s perfectly normal.
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