When I’m talking with older men like my papa (a male supporter), I’ve gotten into the habit of responding with things like “Right?!” “Mm-hmm,” and “Exactly.”
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When I suddenly imagined how I’d feel if someone else responded to me the same way, I wondered if it might actually come across as ruder than I realize.
How would you feel if someone responded to you like that? Would it bother you after all?
I’m a BB7 male member.
You mean how I’d feel if this were done by a woman I had no ongoing arrangement with, rather than one of my regular partners, right?
I’d probably think, “Why is she being so familiar with me? She must do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and be used to older men.”
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I’m Dan from the staff, and I’ll answer as well.
If you’ve grown close, I think it’s perfectly fine. Many men may feel special when you show them an unguarded side of yourself. Please continue to let your charm shine.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
I don’t think there’s any problem if it’s with someone you’ve met many times and become extremely close to.
But if it’s on the first date, or when you’ve only met a few times, I’d probably wonder whether she was a woman who had never learned basic social etiquette.
That said, if she’s attractive, people may end up accepting it anyway. I suppose that’s what makes the world unfair.
Years ago, there was a McDonald’s in Odaiba known as “Tameguchi McDonald’s,” where the female staff became famous for speaking casually to customers.
“One Big Mac? What would you like to drink?”
It was nostalgic—the staff would talk to customers like that.
I’m curious what that woman is doing now. I almost wish a TV show like “Whatever Happened to That Person?” would track her down.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
I wouldn’t take offense, but I do think you might want to learn a little more.
The way something comes across can vary depending on the conversation and the atmosphere at the time. But if you feel that the way you’ve spoken up to now has been inappropriate, I think it would be good to make a few adjustments.
That’s what “working on yourself” is all about, right?（笑）
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I’m in Seattle.
Personally, I prefer someone who talks that casually from the very first meeting. Come to think of it, the person I’ve stayed in touch with also spoke to me that casually.
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I think it’s fine once you’ve gotten to know each other well enough.
If you speak casually from the start, they may think you don’t know how to use polite language. But if you keep speaking formally even after becoming close, they might feel that you haven’t really opened up to them.
That said, it depends on the person, so if your papa (a male supporter) looks uncomfortable, it’s probably better not to get too casual.
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Wait—are you talking about an older man who isn’t a papa (a male supporter)?
That’s completely unacceptable. It’s just plain inconsiderate.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I wouldn’t get offended, but I’d think she was overly familiar and had a poor sense of personal boundaries.
If we were close, it wouldn’t bother me.
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