Good morning.

I’m Aya, a female member. I’m glad you found someone you really love. I do think your instincts are right, but there are plenty of exceptions. One of my monthly arrangement papas told me that he had never stayed with any of his mistresses for more than a year, but we’ve now been together for four years. We’re very compatible and I love him dearly, but I also want to have children someday, so I don’t expect this relationship to last forever. That’s why I’m continuing to work hard, while also keeping other papas in my life, and putting all the money I receive into savings and investments to grow it. In fact, part of the reason I started investing was because of my papa’s advice. If I’m left with a substantial amount of money when we eventually part ways, I’ll feel that these ⚫︎ years weren’t wasted.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > That papa usually dates a woman for about one to two years. I think it’s a very good idea to ask how long men typically maintain these relationships. It varies from person to person, but I think it generally does come down to around that average. Based on that, it’s wise to consider how much importance he’s likely to place on you. That means you should probably make sure you have other sources of income as well.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I’m not really sure what you’re talking about (in the style of Date from Sandwich Man). Why are you looking for a “papa” instead of a “boyfriend”?

You can’t fool your own feelings, so if you like your papa (a male supporter) right now, I think you should cherish those feelings and enjoy your time together. Even if he weren’t your papa but just a regular boyfriend, there would still come a time when you might part ways, so there’s no point worrying about it too much. Of course, you should make sure you have a source of income. I think it would be fine to save a little of your current papa’s allowance and work a regular job as well. Marika

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. > This is a theory created by a woman with experience in papa-katsu, haha, but I feel like the length of time men keep and date a mistress tends to be fairly consistent... Exactly. I think it varies from man to man, but looking at each individual man, those whose past relationships lasted one or two years will probably continue to show the same pattern. It’s a matter of personal preference, so I don’t think it will change easily. Of course, there are probably cases where a relationship lasts more than three years from the beginning, but I think those are exceptions. For example, Leonardo DiCaprio’s dating history is famous. (It’s even been turned into a graph, haha.) According to the graph: - He began dating 18-year-old Gisele Bündchen in 1999, but they broke up in 2004, when she was 23. - He began dating 20-year-old Bar Refaeli in 2005, but they broke up in 2010, when she was 25. - He dated 23-year-old Blake Lively in 2011. - He dated 22-year-old Erin Heatherton in 2012. - He began dating 20-year-old Toni Garrn in 2013, but they broke up in 2014, when she was 21. - He dated 25-year-old Kelly Rohrbach in 2015. - He began dating 24-year-old Nina Agdal in 2016, but they broke up in 2017, when she was 25. - He began dating 20-year-old Camila Morrone in 2018, and they were apparently still together in 2021, when she was 23. https://img-9gag-fun.9cache.com/photo/a5RqpNg_700b.jpg Looking at this, the oldest age of the women he has dated so far is 25, and he seems to break up with them once they turn 25. So it’s possible the same thing will happen in the future. That said, I imagine things might change if he gets married. > Should I look for another new papa in case things end with this man? I think so. Being involved with just one man may be easier, but if things end, I think it will put you in a difficult position. That’s why I think it’s better to date multiple men. If you’re seeing around three or four men, you probably won’t have to worry as much about that kind of situation. > Should I focus on improving myself and hope that he’ll stay with me for more than two years? I think the chances are very low, but they aren’t zero. And improving yourself is always a good thing. So even while looking for another papa, I think it’s best to keep working on yourself.

I’m Meg, a female member. Thank you for sharing something so painful. When you have only one papa (a male supporter), it’s natural to feel that way—especially since you’re single. But I also feel that your partner may be prepared for the day when that time eventually comes. For me, there’s meaning in spending each day with the person I’m seeing now. Even if the day comes when he grows tired of me, that’s something beyond my control. All I can do is keep striving to make ours the kind of relationship where, when it ends, I can be grateful that we met and look back on it as a wonderful page in my life. That said, you should make sure you have other sources of income as well.

I’m in Seattle. It doesn’t necessarily end after two years. One of my arrangements has lasted seven years, and another has continued for nine years, even though we meet less often now. I think the main reason these relationships end is that someone better comes along, so you should probably keep looking elsewhere as well.