I’m the female college student who asked earlier about not being able to split the bill.
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Paper Airplane said that once you get used to papa-katsu, you can’t work a job paying 1,000 yen an hour, but I don’t think that’s true.
Through papa-katsu, I receive enough to make offers to six or seven black women. (I’ve only had an adult relationship (intimate) two or three times; most of my dates are ordinary dinner dates.) Even so, I work desperately hard at a restaurant job paying 1,000 yen an hour. I have plenty of financial breathing room, but I keep track of my expenses down to the last yen. I never take taxis or indulge in luxuries—in fact, I’ll even walk to save a few dozen yen on train fare. At the supermarket, I only buy discounted items.
It’s not as though I grew up in a poor family. My father earned over 50 million yen a year, and I went to private schools from middle school onward, so I’d say I came from a relatively wealthy household. Yet I became extremely frugal after starting papa-katsu. I already had several million yen even without papa-katsu, but now I’m accumulating even more cash and feel delighted seeing envelopes filled with millions of yen. At the same time, I don’t want to spend a single penny on anyone else, and I don’t even want to pay for my own meals out. Paying when I’m with a man is absolutely out of the question.
Am I just extremely stingy?
I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> You say that, but I don’t think that’s right.
I think it depends on the person, but generally speaking:
If we look at it in terms of the time required to earn the money, for example:
You receive ¥600,000–¥700,000 per month—more than the cost of six or seven offers to blacklisted women.
You meet ten times a month, three hours each time, for a total of 30 hours. (I’m assuming two or three of those meetings involve an adult relationship, with the rest being dinner only.)
That works out to ¥20,000 per hour.
Men may not want you to think of it in terms of an hourly wage, but if you compare earning ¥20,000 per hour by meeting a papa with earning ¥1,000 per hour at a part-time job, then purely from a financial perspective, you’d probably feel that you couldn’t work for ¥1,000 an hour.
Especially if you enjoy saving money: instead of spending time working for ¥1,000 an hour, you could increase the number of papas you see and go on more dates with them, allowing you to save even more.
For someone whose goal is to save money, working a part-time job for ¥1,000 an hour is heading in a different direction.
That said, in reality, having a part-time job gives you relationships with coworkers and lets you maintain a more ordinary lifestyle, so your sense of money doesn’t become distorted.
From that perspective, I think it’s a good idea to have a part-time job or a regular job.
Even if you’re receiving a generous allowance through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), working part-time for ¥1,000 an hour can still have its benefits.
But if your goal is to save money, then you could argue that it may not be the best approach.
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I’m in Seattle.
I was just as frugal until I’d saved up 100 million yen. I think that’s a great approach.
Let’s start spending once you’ve saved 200 million yen. That was my goal—the 200 million yen I’d need to enjoy life without working ever again.
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I’m Chikuwa, a male member.
You’re what you’d call a penny-pincher. I think your distinctive personality is great. You remind me of the main character from the manga *Patalliro!*, so why not give it a read?
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Huh?
“I'm enjoying my work.”
Did you read this part? I understand—you read it, but it didn’t really register, and that’s the situation you’re in.
Everyone enjoys their part-time jobs, dates, and even splitting the bill.
You seem a little too desperate, so maybe try being more relaxed and making room for some ordinary enjoyment.
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I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a male member.
I also answered your previous question, and you seem to be exactly as I thought.
Your attachment to money is unusually intense. It’s frightening to think that, despite not being financially desperate, you might be having sex with people you don’t actually want to be with just for the money.
(There would be nothing wrong with having sex with someone you genuinely want to be with and simply happening to receive some spending money as well.)
You strike me as an intelligent person, but I feel that your views on men and women, as well as your attitude toward money, have been heavily influenced by your father’s—or perhaps your family’s—outdated values.
In today’s world, “trust” and “connections” are more important than money, and the value of money has declined relatively. We’re living in an age when the number of social media followers can be more valuable than annual income. In many situations, it can even be worthwhile to use money to acquire “trust” and “connections.”
The idea that “men are expected to pay” is also quite outdated, and few people under 30 still think that way. In particular, many of the female university students I meet consider splitting the bill perfectly normal.
One thing I’m concerned about is that you may not have many friends at university either. Our values are shaped by the people around us, and those whose family values remain especially strong are often people with few acquaintances outside the home.
It may cost you a little, but why not “invest” in making new friends to broaden your perspective?
I sincerely hope your life becomes richer and more fulfilling.
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People like that are called misers.
There’s nothing wrong with living simply and saving money, but the problem is that Japanese people tend to just hoard it and enjoy watching their bank balance grow.
I’m not particularly religious, but wealthy people in Christian countries seem to be more charitable the more money they have.
I hope you’ll become that kind of person when you grow up.
Jasmine
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