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I’m a 20-year-old female member.

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When I was in high school, there was a teacher I genuinely had strong feelings for. Around May of the year I graduated, I decided to go for it and confessed my feelings over LINE, but it didn’t work out. It’s been three years since I graduated. I’m no longer in love with him, but I’m still curious about him. Since graduating, I’ve invited him out for dinner several times, but he’s always turned me down, saying things like “I’m busy” or “Maybe another time.” It’s going to be his birthday soon, so I’m thinking of sending him a “Happy Birthday” message on LINE and asking, “Let’s go out for dinner sometime soon!” What would be the best way to invite him so he’ll say yes? Even though I’m a former student and legally an adult now, is it still impossible for him to see me that way? He’s nine years older than me, and I’ve heard he doesn’t have a girlfriend. After I confessed my feelings, I went to his high school staff room a few times to talk, but things between us have never been awkward at all.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too. > What’s the best way to ask so she’ll say yes?? As long as you’re asking her over LINE or something similar, I don’t think it’s going to work. First, you should find out what route that teacher usually takes home and where she tends to stop along the way. Once you know that, you can arrange to run into her “by chance” and speak to her directly. Something like, “Long time no see. What a coincidence.” Then say, “Since we’re here, would you like to grab some tea?” If you can get tea together, I feel like things might go well from there. When asking her to get tea, you should stand close and talk at an unusually close distance. If she says she doesn’t have time, she may not be interested. Still, since you have the opportunity, I think you should directly ask whether she can meet you the day before her birthday. There’s also a chance she already has plans to meet someone on her birthday. A good excuse to meet might be asking her for advice, saying something like: “I’ve started liking someone, but I don’t understand men’s feelings.” If you manage to meet her, I think you should gradually build intimacy while talking things over with her. If your bust is a D cup or larger, you could even wear padding and an outfit with a low neckline—something that looks perfectly ordinary from the front but shows cleavage when you bend over. You could also “accidentally” drop things from time to time and use the opportunity to let her catch a glimpse down your top while picking them up. That might be worth trying too, though perhaps that’s going a little too far…
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I’m Aya, a female member. If she’s already an adult, I think it would be fine to ask her out. Conversely, if she’s an adult and still says no, she probably never will, so I think it’s better to give up. Apparently, many men don’t gradually develop feelings for someone. They decide the moment they meet whether they see her as a potential romantic partner, and whether a relationship is possible is almost determined in that instant. At least, that’s what an acquaintance of mine told me. He’s fairly popular with women, so I found him pretty credible.
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I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.” Marriage would make it work, but otherwise it could simply be seen as “making a move on a student,” so unless he has strong feelings, I think he’d be very cautious. If you’ve already had many opportunities up to now, I’d say this is probably your absolute last chance. Incidentally, I know several high school teachers who married former students. Apparently, they only started dating after the students graduated. It seems to me that you’ve already had more than enough opportunities as well.
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This is Ayase Nana, one of the female members. You could tell him you like him one more time, but if he turns you down again, I think it’s time to move on. You don’t want things to end with him finding you annoying and saying goodbye, right? I’m sure there are plenty of other great people out there. Also, after confessing my feelings, I went to the high school staff room a few times to talk, and our relationship wasn’t awkward at all. I think you’re the only one who doesn’t feel awkward about it. Maybe try reading the atmosphere a little better? Sorry for being so harsh.
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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I’m in Seattle. There’s nothing strange about a 29-year-old and a 20-year-old dating. For now, nothing will happen if you don’t do anything, so muster up your courage and ask her out with confidence. He might actually have a girlfriend, but if you got accepted by Universal, you must be cute, so you might be able to win him away from her. If he isn’t married, he’s free to date. If you focus only on him, it’ll hurt more if things don’t work out, so try going to group matchmaking events too.
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I’m Kazu, a male member. This is just my feeling, but I think it might be better to tell her, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore, but I still care about you.” A casual invitation may be easier for her to respond to.
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