Do you have any tactful ways to dodge being asked for luxury-brand items during shopping dates, or to gracefully turn down frequent invitations to go shopping?
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Also, roughly what percentage of your dates are shopping dates?
I’m Aya, a female member.
I hardly ever go on shopping dates. Occasionally, I’ll accompany my papa when he’s buying gifts for his employees.
Anything I receive from my papas is usually something they pick out and buy for me themselves. So I’m sorry, but I don’t know how to dodge that question.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
For a first meeting, I recommend going on a shopping date.
You can really see the difference between whether she’s comfortable with luxury brands and whether she’s actually willing to pay with her own money.
Even the number of digits—and zeros—can be completely different.
Also, if she’s the one asking for a shopping date, you shouldn’t do it through a club. Nothing beats an allowance, after all. Shopping dates are enjoyable when you’re doing them as a gesture for someone you’re not otherwise giving money to. And even then, only occasionally.
If you’re meeting through a club and do go shopping, it’s best to save it for a special occasion and buy something she currently wants for everyday life, worth roughly as much as the money you would have given her. If there’s nothing like that, you don’t need to buy anything.
That said, when you genuinely feel like doing something beyond her usual allowance, whether it’s shopping or some other special gesture, it’s nice to do something for her. But that didn’t seem to be the case from the way you phrased your question…
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I’m Nana Ayase, a female member.
I’ve never asked for shopping dates.
Why not suggest playing golf together, going for a drive, or taking a trip to a hot spring instead?
And if that doesn’t work, you can simply choose not to meet him, right? There are plenty of other girls~
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I’m in Seattle.
I’ve never had a shopping date. The allowance is always paid in cash.
As a personal hobby, I sometimes buy appliances for them—only for someone I’ve been seeing long enough to have things delivered to their home.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think the best way to avoid shopping dates is simply not to date women who ask for them.
Using this approach, I’ve had zero shopping dates I didn’t want. I’ve gone on lingerie and appliance shopping dates a few times because I was the one who suggested them, so I suppose it’s about 1%.
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