I have a career I want to pursue and need to focus on my studies, but I can’t bring myself to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Thankfully, I met a wonderful person through Universe Club and managed to save enough to pay my private-school tuition in full. I achieved my original goal of earning money for tuition, but watching my savings grow has become a source of security, and now I feel anxious whenever I’m not earning.
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I understand that this is something I’ll eventually have to graduate from, and that I need to become independent rather than relying on my papa (a male supporter) forever. However, I keep prioritizing the money right in front of me over my studies. How did you all eventually move on from papa-katsu? How do you balance it with work or school?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Is it something like how people used to say, “I don’t have time for romance while studying for entrance exams, so let’s stop dating until the exams are over”?
I don’t know how difficult your goal is, but if you’re aiming to pass the bar exam, for example, it might be hard to balance both.
That said, meeting about once a month probably wouldn’t have much of an impact.
Maybe you could make it work by reducing how often you meet. What do you think?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) after entering the workforce, so I can’t speak from experience before that. But about a year after I started, I found stable papas—or rather, my relationships with a small number of papas became steady, and I no longer had to keep meeting unpredictable new people.
I recommend that you narrow it down to only generous (well-paying) papas and stop accepting offers from new people. Also, once you start working, focus on your career. Even when your youth fades, your attitude toward your work stays with you for life. Being able to live your life while feeling grateful to your papas is a wonderful thing, isn’t it?
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
If you’re concerned about getting by in the short term, it may be okay to do papa-katsu until you feel reasonably secure.
Regardless of age, I think it’s best to graduate from papa-katsu while things are still fresh—after a year or two, or a few years at most—including settling into an arrangement with just one particular person.
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I’m in Seattle.
Money matters more to me.
Earn just enough credits to get by, and do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as much as you can—just don’t push yourself to the point of burning out.
Let’s aim for 100 million yen.
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