There’s a male member I meet about once a month during the day. I’m grateful that he gives me the allowance I ask for each time. However, in return, we only have lunch at places like a nearby udon restaurant. (I understand that his financial situation is a factor, too.) Is there a tactful, cute way to tell him that I’d sometimes like him to take me somewhere nice for lunch—somewhere I normally wouldn’t be able to go?
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
If it’s just lunch, it doesn’t seem like it would be too expensive, so while you’re together, you could say:
“Next time, I’d like to go to this restaurant. Could you take me there?”
It might help to show him the restaurant’s webpage on your phone.
Being specific about the restaurant will make it easier for him to understand, but at first, I’d suggest testing the waters with places that cost around ¥3,000 or less per person for lunch. I’d think he’d probably take you somewhere in that price range.
If things go well, you could gradually suggest more expensive restaurants.
That said, I think it would be best to find a separate papa (a male supporter) who’s willing to take you to lunches like that.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
What are you looking for in a lunch somewhere you normally wouldn’t get to go? The food? A sense of luxury? The atmosphere? If you simply say you want to go somewhere you normally wouldn’t, it puts the other person in a difficult position. I think it’s better to be specific about what kind of restaurant you’d like to visit.
That said, quite a lot of people aren’t particularly interested in food. For someone like that, it’s probably best to name a specific restaurant yourself.
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I’m BB7, a male member.
If you mention a specific place and restaurant—“A friend told me that [restaurant] is really good. Would you like to go there together?”—most ordinary men will probably take you.
But if he still insists on udon, then accept that’s just the kind of man he is and move on...
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I’m in Seattle.
I’m not a fan of full-course French cuisine either. The dishes take so long to come out that I start thinking, “Are they coming or not?” and feel like using the plate as a drum and tapping on it with my fork.
If there’s an allowance, what’s the problem? I’ll use it to go out to eat with my friends.
This reminded me of Dr. Takasu. *My Darling Is 70* is really entertaining. They eat things like sushi ochazuke.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
One of my papas has assets worth five billion yen, but he actually likes ramen shops, udon, McDonald’s, and places like that. He isn’t into French cuisine, so we rarely go to upscale restaurants.
He does love luxury hotels, though, so it’s kind of funny—we’ll stay at the Park Hyatt and then grab food at a nearby Marugame Seimen. I’ll tease him while he digs into a large bowl of udon, saying, “You’re not a college student coming back from club practice, you know!” It’s fun in its own way, though…
People like that tend to have their own principles, so it’s probably best to make a cute request on special occasions, like, “I’d love to go here♡” Otherwise, you may just come across as spoiled or fussy.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Why not try asking her on LINE, “I’d love for you to take me to ○○ sometime—the kind of lunch place I normally wouldn’t get to go to. Would that be okay?”
Mentioning a specific restaurant on LINE lets him check the atmosphere and get an idea of the price range.
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