I’m 25 and a member.

I’m Aya, a female member. Could it be that you’re, for example, attracted mainly to good-looking men? Sorry if I’m off base. Just as there aren’t many truly beautiful women in the world, genuinely handsome men are also quite rare. So I think it would help to narrow down your criteria—for example, by saying height is enough. After dating a few people, it should be fairly easy to marry the one who seems the best of the bunch.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male club member. I sometimes receive similar questions from women around your age who aren’t involved with a club, and I don’t think this is an issue that can be solved simply by quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’s not just that men today have a weaker idea of marriage or of the appropriate age to marry. I also strongly feel that young men’s attitudes toward romantic relationships and dating have changed dramatically. With so much of what satisfies young people emotionally now being available digitally, I get the impression that men no longer think about making a woman happy on a date. They seem less inclined to be considerate or to plan a date they believe she would enjoy. What I mean is that many dates are rather underwhelming—casual, detached, and almost indifferent from our perspective. There’s not even a hint of trying to spark something in the woman’s heart. It’s more like, “If we both like each other, let’s keep seeing each other.” It’s not simply that they’ve become accustomed to luxury through papa-katsu. We seem to be living in an era where even the most basic, standard kind of date is hard to come by. You can’t tell whether a man is genuinely trying to move things forward or is simply uninterested. Given the times we live in, I think it’s important to understand that just waiting or continuing to go on dates may not be enough, and that you need to take action… I also think it’s important to interpret things in the most favorable way possible.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think it would be a good idea to register with a marriage agency and wait for offers. Unlike a dating club, marriage agencies also allow women to send offers to men. I’ve noticed that the page for male members on Universe Club and the members-only pages of marriage agencies look quite similar.