This is embarrassing, but I’m in my 40s, enjoy sex, get aroused easily, am vocal, squirt, am okay with going bareback, and like using vibrators. I’m worried people would be put off, so I haven’t told anyone. If I wrote this in my profile, would you decide to avoid me?

I’m a BB7 male member. I also love being intimate with women like the questioner, but if she stated it openly in her profile, I probably wouldn’t make an offer. When it’s written so explicitly and prominently in a profile, it feels vulgar and turns me off. Sometimes staff write something like, “We can’t go into detail, but actually…” in their comments. That kind of thing is pretty enticing.

I’m a male member, Chikuwa. If you want to receive offers, I think it’s better to write something distinctive that sets you apart from others. Even if it seriously puts some people off, all that matters is that it appeals to someone.

Setting aside what the club allows, personally, I wouldn’t include wording like that in my profile. I’d just hint that you don’t dislike intimacy, and then, once someone makes you an offer, it can be effective to “blossom” with a “for you” attitude. If you openly spell out your preferences, won’t the only people making offers be those with unusual kinks? That’s fine if you’re specifically targeting that type, but since this is a dating club, I’d keep things transactional and not give off too much of a kinky vibe here (whatever that means). People with those kinds of interests should probably look on specialized sites where they can satisfy their desires. If you’re genuinely skilled at oil massages—not just pretending—that’s a wonderful talent. As for the allowance, it’s simply a matter of mutual agreement, so I don’t have any particular opinion on the amount. Marika P.S. Oh, Mack, thank you for the kind words. Today, we were being intimate at a love hotel with a terrace, trying to keep quiet, but I don’t think I could hold back halfway through and ended up making quite a bit of noise. I wonder if the neighbors heard us.

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well. > I’m very sensitive, vocal, squirt, can do AF, and I also like using vibrators, but I’m afraid people would be put off, so I haven’t told anyone. If I put that in my profile, would men think, “I’ll pass on her”? I think it would be best to keep it simple, since listing everything might scare people off. Something like: “I’m very sensitive and tend to be vocal—would someone like me be okay?” AF will only appeal to men who are specifically into that, so I think they’re a minority. As for vibrators, men who go to love hotels will probably use one anyway even if you don’t mention it, so I don’t think there’s any need to write that. That said, if you already talked about those things with the staff, they may have included them in your profile already… > I can give oil massages and have a good figure (E-cup, 60-cm waist, 86-cm hips), but would asking for 50,000 yen for an adult relationship (intimate) make me seem entitled? I think saying you have a good figure is a weak selling point, because there are always women with even better figures. For example, someone might have a G-cup, 58-cm waist, and 86-cm hips. (I haven’t confirmed whether such a person actually exists—I’m just giving an example.) As for the allowance you want, I think it’s better to state the amount you’re looking for. However, if you’d rather enjoy yourself even with a lower allowance than be turned down outright, you could ask how much he’s able to offer and say: “I was hoping for 50,000 yen, but since it’s our first time, I’m okay with that amount just this once. If you liked me today, please consider increasing the allowance next time.” Then, right after things are over, you could ask something like: “If we meet again, how much would the allowance be?” Even if he says it would be the same as this time, you could respond: “You were great in bed, so I’m okay with that. Are you free to meet next week?”

Getting or giving oil massages sounds nice. I’m Paper Airplane, one very happy male member.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I seem to remember that writing anything too explicitly sexual isn’t allowed, so you may want to check that first. Being experienced with anal play could help you stand out, though some men may be put off by it. But I think it’s fine to ignore anyone who is. As for the allowance, I don’t think you sound presumptuous. I’ve never met a woman who actually gave massages despite saying she could, so like Riichi, I’d be interested in meeting you too.