The man who gave me an STI blocked me on LINE, and I can no longer contact him.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well. There really are some awful men out there. First of all, I think you should report this to the club. Send them the following as a set: - A photo of the test results from before you were intimate with the man - The date you were intimate with him, in writing - Your test results afterward If you provide all of that, the staff will likely think it’s highly possible that the man infected you. You should also give them permission to confirm the situation with him directly. That said, even after going that far, it may be difficult for the club to forcibly terminate his membership. If it were up to me, I’d probably say something like: “If you refuse to cover the woman’s medical expenses, I don’t consider that very gentlemanly. Are you sure you’re okay with being forcibly banned from the club?” However, I get the feeling that the staff on the ground may not be able to say something that direct. Still, they can suspend his introductions until he provides proof that he has fully recovered, so they can at least prevent other women from being harmed. Please make sure to report it. Honestly, you’d think he could at least pay her medical expenses. It’s just… unbelievable. Couldn’t he at least say, “I’m sorry. Let me buy you something as an apology”?

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. If you’re serious about recovering the cost of your treatment, I think it’s more realistic to maintain a good relationship with the man and get him to give you more than the treatment cost under some other pretext. Revenge means making someone think you’re their ally, then stabbing them in the back—or poisoning them.

I’m Chikuwa, a male member. Why do you think you’re entitled to have your medical expenses covered if you catch an STI? If you were the one who passed it on, would you be prepared to pay?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. You say he infected you, but from the man’s perspective, he’s probably thinking, “What?” If someone suddenly asked him to pay their medical expenses under those circumstances, it’s understandable that he panicked. I can see why he ended up blocking you. No matter how much you say you got tested right before meeting him, an infection may not show up on a test immediately. Unfortunately, you can’t definitively say that this man was the source of the infection. That’s simply how STI testing works. I have to say that you also bear some responsibility for having sex in a way that carried a risk of contracting an STI. You’re the only one who can protect your own body. Even if you expect someone else to do something about it, they can’t necessarily help. If you can’t get in touch with him, all you can do is inform the club of what happened. They might at least pass along a message, but whether the man responds is ultimately up to him.

I’m Kazu, a male member. First, after reading your question, I thought you were probably going to get blocked. You assumed that man had infected you, and then repeatedly pressured him for updates. You may not find that convincing, so try looking at things from his perspective. Someone who presumably has sex with people other than you contacts you and says: “I tested negative before we were together, so you must have infected me. Go get tested right away. What were the results? Let me know.” If someone kept pressuring you like that, wouldn’t it get annoying? What is the truth for you isn’t necessarily the truth for the other person. To prevent women from ending up in the same situation in the future, two things are important. Don’t have sex without a condom unless you have an established relationship with the person. And if you contract an STI, approach the situation with the attitude that you’re going to solve the problem together, rather than blaming the other person. Even as a man, I’d be too scared to have unprotected sex if someone I barely knew suggested it. Someone who casually agrees to unprotected sex despite having only a superficial relationship with you may already have an STI without realizing it. P.S. I’m also firmly of the opinion that “men who transmit an STI and refuse to pay the treatment costs are unacceptable,” but I don’t think that contradicts anything I said in this answer.

I’m in Seattle. You should report him to the Universe staff. I think he deserves to be blacklisted.