I’m a university student doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I have a monthly arrangement for ¥300,000, but the person became ill with COVID-19 just before making the first transfer and has been hospitalized for two months. I haven’t received a single yen of the promised allowance during that time, and I’m struggling with tuition and other expenses, so it’s difficult to keep waiting. However, his LINE replies are slow and sound like he’s having a hard time, so I feel terrible bringing up money. If someone said this to me, it would probably just make me feel even more drained, right? 😭
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Should I just wait until he’s safely discharged, or would it be okay to bring it up indirectly? I’d appreciate your advice.
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I’m not really sure whether it’s possible for someone to be hospitalized continuously for two months.
First, I think you should send the club feedback saying something like, “I may have been deceived,” and give them permission to confirm the situation with him.
If he really were hospitalized, I don’t think he would have made an offer in the first place. If he asks whether you’re suspicious, you could say, “I contacted the club because I wanted to visit him and hoped they could tell me the name of the hospital, but things ended up like this, and I’m surprised too.”
You’re probably being deceived, so I don’t think the day you receive the money will ever come. I think you should give up on that man and look for someone new.
Besides, even if he were hospitalized, he should still be able to make a bank transfer.
First, report him to the club so no other women become victims. Then look for a new man.
To avoid being deceived next time, even with a monthly arrangement, have him pay upfront. If he can’t do that, pay-per-meeting is the better option.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
No matter how heartbreaking his messages may sound, pay attention to his actions rather than his words.
Whether he’s really hospitalized or not, the fact remains that he hasn’t transferred any money to you. Let it go and move on.
If he were a longtime friend, you might worry about his hospitalization and wait, trusting him. But there’s nothing to be gained from easily trusting a man you met through a dating club.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
If you’ve made an agreement, I think the proper thing is to pay. And if he can use his phone, he probably has enough time to make an online transfer.
If it were me, knowing full well that the papa-katsu woman needs the money right now, I’d send, “It looks like we won’t be able to meet for a while, so I’m sorry, but please find someone else m(_ _)m”—while secretly hoping she’d reply, “No, I’ll wait until you’re safely discharged from the hospital.”
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I still haven’t received my first payment.
Maybe he found another attractive girl and was never hospitalized after all… When you’re only communicating through LINE, COVID can be a convenient excuse…
I don’t think that’s the case, but if even the first month’s payment still hasn’t come through, it’s going to be difficult.
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