Tips May 17, 2021 10:05

I’m a male member. I’d like to ask—or rather, hear everyone’s opinions on—how I should proceed with a 22-year-old B-type woman.

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We’ve been having dinner once a month, and after six months, we had sex for the first time. Afterward, she said she didn’t really like sex that much, so she thanked me for waiting. Early on, I had clearly explained the allowance for dinner only and the allowance for an adult relationship, so I don’t think this is about the amount. However, perhaps what she really meant was an indirect request for an increase. Honestly, dinner alone isn’t enough for me, and I’d like to continue seeing her with sex as part of the arrangement. I’m wondering how I should invite her next time. It would be simplest to ask her directly how she wants to continue seeing each other, but I’m hesitant. I’d appreciate your advice.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member. Huh? Why not just keep things the way they’ve been? She was happy to spend time with you even without getting physical, and that’s how you earned her trust, right? Just because you’ve been intimate once, is it really appropriate to change your attitude? Be honest with her about what you feel is lacking, and don’t rush to a conclusion. If you continue the relationship with the same approach as before, I’m sure you’ll arrive at a good answer.
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I’m a BB7 male member. Seeing each other once a month for dinner only for six months… I couldn’t do it myself. And if you don’t really enjoy sex either… that would be even more impossible(笑) I have to admire you. Putting that aside, Aren’t you reading too much into the other person’s intentions? Just reading this is exhausting. If you honestly want to see him with intimacy included, I think you should simply tell him that. But if you really don’t want intimacy, then I suppose you’d have to continue seeing him while putting up with it. A relationship where you’re constantly forcing yourself sounds pretty stressful.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. That sounds really nice. It put me in a warm, happy mood too. With a Type B woman, should you be more cautious next time? Or, considering the allowance, should you plan on an adult relationship (intimate) again? There’s a lot to think about, isn’t there? The key points are: - Don’t expect an adult relationship (intimate) every time, but if the conversation and atmosphere head in that direction, invite her right away without hesitation. - Continue enjoying your dinner dates just as you have been. - Be prepared to go to a hotel every time. Also, how was the chemistry between you two? Some Type B women are cautious and guarded, so if she felt you were better than the other men she’s met, I think you’ll naturally end up seeing each other more often.
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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu will answer as well. I believe the phrase: “Because I’m not really into sex” is what she meant. She may not particularly like it, but because you were gentlemanly, she’s saying she’d be okay with being intimate again in the future. > I don’t think it’s about the amount, but perhaps it was actually an indirect way of asking for an increase. I think you may be reading too much into it. Normally, a man wouldn’t wait six months for a Type B woman, so I think she was simply thanking you for waiting. That said, it’s possible she wanted to repay you at the end because you had stayed with her for six months, so I can understand why you’re a little concerned. As for seeing each other in the future, I think it should be fine as long as it’s not just going to a hotel, but something like a hotel plus dinner or a hotel plus a date. Since she isn’t fond of intimacy, this may be her way of keeping it to half as much. If you both compromise halfway, it seems like a good balance. > It would be quicker to ask her how she’d like to continue seeing each other, but I’m hesitant. If you’re worried, why not invite her to dinner as usual and then try heading to a hotel afterward? At that point, it’s important to pay close attention to her behavior and not miss any signs. If she seems even slightly uncomfortable, you could try reassuring her with a few words. It’s hard to imagine a woman who was intimate with you once suddenly not wanting to do so the next time, so I think it should be fine. However, it’s possible that the timing may happen to coincide with her period—for example, if she isn’t used to talking about it and can’t bring herself to say that it may be starting soon, or if it unexpectedly begins that day.
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I’m Kazu, a male member. Six months is quite a long time. Sorry for the somewhat vague answer, but I think it’s best to talk openly with her while being careful not to come on too strong and make her pull away—without simply becoming “just a nice guy,” either. I also didn’t think it was really about the amount of money. As Riichi mentioned, you should probably let her know what made you happy.
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