Last month, when I tried to negotiate a lower allowance with someone I’d been seeing for about six months, she said something along the lines of, “I think we should each find someone whose allowance terms work for us, so if our terms don’t match, we should just go our separate ways.”

I’m a BB7 male member. After seeing her for six months, I reduced her allowance—and she said goodbye without a second thought. Well, that’s how it goes sometimes. I know it’s painful right after a breakup, but you still have 7,000 other candidates. Once you start reaching out to other women, you’ll have completely forgotten about her in six months or a year.

I’m Taro, a male member. Why not simply message her: “I’m sorry. I really do want to see you after all, so would you be willing to meet under the previous terms?” If you want to improve your chances, you could add something like: “If meeting under the same terms feels uncomfortable after that conversation, I’m open to changing them. Please let me know what level would make you feel okay.” Since the allowance is also tied to a woman’s pride, you need to be extremely careful when negotiating a reduction. Maybe that’s where you went wrong. That said, if you were able to see each other for six months, she must have had some feelings for you. That’s your thread of hope. Bringing up an allowance increase or speaking from a position of superiority will only backfire. Since you were the reason you broke things off, it’s better to leave it up to her—including whether to increase the allowance. Also, while “physical compatibility” may sound perfectly convincing from a man’s perspective, it can come across poorly from a woman’s point of view, so I think you should choose your wording more carefully. Judging from your question, I think your chances are fairly good. Now it’s just a matter of figuring out how to bring things to a resolution.

That’s unfortunate. You brought this on yourself by trying to negotiate a lower allowance. No use crying over spilled milk. Marika

Maezawa from the president’s office here with an answer as well. > I was shocked that, despite seeing her regularly for six months, she so easily suggested breaking up once our terms no longer worked for her. There it is—the kind of man who only thinks about himself! If you look at it from the opposite perspective, I think you’ll understand: after seeing someone regularly for six months, having them try to negotiate a lower allowance would be even more shocking. If you’d been seeing her for six months, shouldn’t you at least have been able to say something like: “I’ve come to like you even more, so I’m going to increase your allowance.” I’m amazed that, after dating her for six months, you still don’t understand that. It shows you weren’t really seeing her as a person at all. Of course, there are cases where the woman grows genuinely fond of the man and says she no longer needs an allowance. But those are rare—and in that situation, it’s something the woman says, not the man. If allowance represents a woman’s value in the man’s eyes, you should realize that saying, “Your value has gone down, so I’m reducing your allowance,” is essentially what you told her. > I’m wondering whether I should contact her and say that I still want to keep seeing her with the same allowance as before. You don’t seem to feel any remorse for hurting her. If that’s the kind of man you are, then from her perspective, breaking up was probably the right decision. If you really want to continue seeing her under the same terms, you should consider properly conveying your apology—for example, by buying her the roughly ¥500,000 bag she wanted. > In a case like this, would it be difficult to get back together with someone you broke up with? I think it would be difficult, and she has probably already blocked you, so your message may not even reach her. However, if you can express your sincere apology properly through a gift, there might be about a 0.1% chance that she’ll forgive you this time.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If she sees it purely as business, she might be willing to meet you as part of her work. > We had exceptionally good physical chemistry. So that was just an illusion too, I suppose.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think it’ll be difficult. You might have a chance if you show how sorry you are by offering a higher allowance.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. If I were in her position, I wouldn’t resume the relationship. There’s always a chance he’ll try to negotiate a lower allowance again in the future. Frankly, he sounds like a hassle. The fact that you kept seeing each other for six months is irrelevant. She only continued seeing you because you wanted to keep meeting her. When the money stops, so does the relationship. What’s done is done.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Don’t regret your decision! Was it the right choice? Was it the wrong one? There’s no way to know! Don’t look back—just keep moving forward… Have confidence that you’ll definitely find someone who’s happy to be with you under the same terms…