My papa (a male supporter), who said I was his only partner, contracted an STI (I tested negative).

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. You’ve met a good man who was honest with you about having contracted an STI. Relationships through a dating club involve money, so they feel different from romantic relationships. Still, I think it’s fine as long as you both take it seriously and genuinely engage with each other. From your question, he sounds like a good papa (a male supporter). I think exclusive relationships at dating clubs are much harder for men than for women. Men have to resist the temptation to make offers, which isn’t easy（笑）. New cute women keep joining one after another（笑）. That said, in my experience, once you go about a year without making an offer, you stop feeling such a strong urge to do so. I guess the question is whether you can make it that far（笑）

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here. > Right now, I’m not sure whether I like him or not. Since it doesn’t sound like you’ve come to dislike him, I think you should continue seeing him as you have been. You don’t need to force yourself, but I feel that being somewhere between liking and disliking someone is actually ideal. Unless you feel that way, it can be difficult to see multiple men. I think you should continue seeing your current partner while also looking for someone new. Meeting other men might make you realize again that your current partner is a good person, and you may come to like him again. Of course, the opposite could happen too. I think seeing a variety of men can broaden your perspective.

I’m Aya, a female member. That must have been a shock. I can understand how you feel. But in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it can actually be an advantage not to like someone too much, so I don’t think you need to force yourself to fall for your papa (a male supporter) again. In fact, staying detached and approaching him with an unusually clear head may not be a bad thing. Once you think, “He’s just an ordinary papa-katsu guy like any other…” you can view him more objectively, which makes it easier to understand exactly how he feels. As a result, you can act in ways that meet his needs, which may improve his opinion of you, lead to a higher allowance, or even help extend the arrangement. That’s been my experience. So rather than forcing yourself to like him, I think it’s perfectly fine to stay calm and maintain a friendly relationship.

I’m Taro, a male member. That man handled it properly. He could have waited until the woman confronted him after catching it from him and then admitted it, or quietly gotten treatment while claiming he was too busy to see her for a while, secretly hoping she wouldn’t catch it and find out. Instead, knowing there was a chance his lie might be exposed, he chose to tell you honestly and promptly that he had contracted an STI. It may seem obvious, but I think he deserves credit for doing the right thing. That said, I understand why you’re feeling unsettled. Bottling up your feelings in a situation like this won’t solve anything. Like rust spreading beneath a coat of paint, it will slowly eat away at your true self. I think you should be straightforward and tell him exactly how you feel. He must have told you about his STI knowing that he’d have to face the consequences, so make him confront those consequences. His response will show you how understanding he is and how he really feels about you. If he says something that touches your heart, you may be able to fall for him again. If he disappoints you, you can simply cut him loose. Either way, you’ll be able to face forward and move on.

I’m Kazu, a male member. First of all, congratulations on testing negative. I think he’s a good man in that he made sure to tell you that he had contracted an STI. I can’t say whether you’ll be able to love him the way you did before. Since you don’t know whether your feelings will return, why not continue seeing him for a while and see how things go before deciding? Even if you were to look for a new papa (a male supporter), you probably wouldn’t find one right away, so it might be best to wait until you’ve found a replacement before gradually fading out.