I’ve been approached several times in Kabukicho by men around my father’s age. (They were invitations.) My cousins are elite civil servants, nurses, and people working in healthcare, and I’m the only one who only graduated from high school. I can’t stop going to downtown entertainment districts at night (I sometimes feel like going). I also sometimes feel like going out with hosts.
I know I’m sick.
Are the men who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) sick too?
I’m in Seattle.
I think host clubs are just an addiction that makes you throw your money away.
You need to be getting money from men, not spending it on them.
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I’m BB7, a male member.
If you can’t stop even when you want to, that’s an addiction. In that sense, a painter who’s so absorbed in painting that they can’t quit would have a painting addiction, and a musician who can’t stop making music would be considered ill too.
If it isn’t harmful, it isn’t really a problem, and I wouldn’t call it an illness.
If someone spends recklessly on hosts, goes bankrupt, ruins their health, and ends up committing fraud, theft, or suicide, then I’d say that’s an illness.
Even if someone loses all their money through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or spends all day looking at a message board like this, it’s hard to say for sure whether that’s an illness.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I don’t see any connection between being unable to stop going to the nightlife district at night and having only a high school education.
And while going even though you believe you shouldn’t sounds like an illness, I don’t think there are many people registered with a dating club who keep going on dates even though they believe they shouldn’t.
> Are all the men involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) sick, too?
When you look at it that way, I don’t think it’s an illness.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
It’s not an illness. People really underestimate the strength of sexual desire—it’s one of the three basic human urges. Is feeling sleepy a disease?
You really shouldn’t underestimate sexual desire. It’s a driving force behind all kinds of behavior and the root of our life energy. Just like hunger and the desire to sleep, it’s something we should be much more open about and value.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
What do you gain by making yourself out to be sick? Don’t label other people as mentally ill based on your own nonsensical logic.
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I'm Date◎Yume, a male member.
As someone who graduated from a high school that wasn't exactly known for its academic standing, I understand what you're trying to say.
It may seem like a kind of illness, but I think the society you're looking at, the environment you're in, and what you're striving for are all different.
You can't compete in areas judged by academic scores, so try moving away from that and finding ways to make the most of your own abilities...
Then you'll catch a different kind of illness（笑).
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Since we’re enjoying something that society would frown upon—papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—I think both men and women involved are a little messed up (depending on how often they do it). If you can’t stop because you’re having too much fun, that’s a form of dependence, for better or worse.
With that in mind, I think it’s something to enjoy discreetly while trying not to inconvenience other people as much as possible. To the person who asked the question: please be careful not to get into any dangerous situations in the entertainment districts.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Yes, I consider it an illness. Apparently, it’s called Tiger Woods syndrome—that’s what people tell me.
Once a month or once a week would be enough, but I can’t seem to restrain or control myself the way I should—or rather, the way I want to.
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