I’m out driving with my papa right now, but his car is so dirty that I want to go home.
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It’s cramped, filthy on the outside, and dusty inside. It’s absolutely awful.
I can’t help thinking, “At least wash your car.”
Like, no wonder your income only lets you pay such a low allowance. (I’m definitely going to get told off for saying that, haha.)
I’ve met all kinds of papas through the club, and there are other supporters who pay a much higher allowance and are also more decent and respectful, so I’m thinking of cutting this one off.
We’ve just come to a café, but with COVID going around, I’m worried about getting infected and want to leave already.
I haven’t received my allowance yet, though—is it okay if I quietly slip out and block him on LINE???
Just yesterday, a papa (a male supporter) picked me up for our date. I said, “Your car is always spotless,” and he replied, “It would be rude to have a dirty car when I’m giving a woman a ride, so I always wash it the day before.” I was surprised by how considerate he was.
That’s why I’m shocked that men like the questioner’s papa (a male supporter) actually exist.
If you live somewhere you can’t go on dates without a car and driving is essential every time, I’d put up with it just for today and then stop seeing him.
I’d also be worried that having him clean his car might make his wife suspicious.
Marika
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
That’s not about me, is it...? (lol)
That’s actually my go-to tactic. (lol)
I wouldn’t recommend making it blatantly obvious that it’s papa-katsu.
It’s better to meet discreetly while looking completely ordinary—or even a little unremarkable and hard to figure out.
Also, when ending things, I’d appreciate it if you could say something like, “I’m sorry, but I can’t continue seeing you,” rather than suddenly just blocking me.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
This time, the problem was that the person asking the question didn’t do enough vetting. You have to look at it that way, or you’ll just end up repeating the same thing. From now on, make sure you carefully vet people before going on a driving date, and check the car as well.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
You’ve probably made it home by now, but why would anyone keep the inside of a car they invite people into so dirty…?? To the point where you wanted to escape… That’s quite a mystery. You must be exhausted.
Still, it’s probably best not to simply run off without saying anything, since your papa (a male supporter) might hold a grudge.
From now on, it may be best to politely decline drives.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here.
If this was a first date arranged by Universe, you can’t just leave like that.
First, you need to report the situation to the club and follow their decision.
If it wasn’t arranged by Universe and this was a second date or later, you’re free to decide what to do.
That said, basic manners still apply, so it would be better to say goodbye properly, with something like:
“I think I’m getting carsick, so would it be okay if we called it a day here?”
After that, I think it’s generally best to send a LINE message like, “I’m sorry, but I don’t think continuing this relationship will work for me,” and then block them.
You don’t need to explain why. It’ll only lead to a pointless back-and-forth, so I think it’s best to just send the conclusion.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Personally, I’d like you to tell him, “I want to go home.” But if it’s not your first date, wouldn’t it be okay to slip away and block him?
He’ll be surprised if his date suddenly disappears.
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