I’m a former female member. How do you cope with the pain of breaking up with someone you were seeing?
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Today I said goodbye to the papa (a male supporter) I’d been seeing for two years, which is what prompted me to leave the site. I received a severance payment several times my annual income, so I’m financially fine (it was paid by bank transfer, so I’ll report it on my tax return).
I’ve been money-minded for as long as I can remember, but I’m so emotionally unstable that I don’t even feel like looking for a new papa. I even have a decent boyfriend I could see myself marrying. Tomorrow, I’m going to spend the whole day zoning out at a super sento. Please tell me how you switch gears and move on by yourself.
Time really does heal, I think.
It’s been about a year and a half since I parted ways with someone I loved very much. During that time, I met some good papas, though I wouldn’t say I loved them that deeply.
Now I’ve found someone I like again, and before I knew it, thinking about my ex no longer hurt nearly as much.
That said, I feel like I’d still be shaken if I happened to run into him while I was with another papa.
Marika
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Relationships through a dating club usually come to an end sooner or later. Even when you’ve been seeing someone for a long time, I think it’s important to keep that possibility somewhere in the back of your mind. And it’s not just something women need to think about—I believe knowing when to step away is important for men, too.
> I’m so emotionally unstable that I don’t even feel ready to look for a new papa. Even though I have a decent boyfriend I could see myself marrying.
Time will heal. I think it would be best to take some time to sort out your feelings.
I don’t know how the two of you parted ways, but reading your question made me feel envious. Even though I know it would be difficult for an old man like me, I’d love to have that kind of goodbye, too!
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You’re in Seattle.
Why not get married? You’ll be so busy choosing a venue and looking for a new home that you’ll forget all about it.
Or have kids. Between taking care of them, you won’t even have time to sleep.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That sounds really lonely… Even if the reason is something positive, like getting married, I imagine it must still be painful. It sounds like you and your papa (a male supporter) developed a relationship that went beyond money.
I think only time can heal this. It should get easier as time passes, so for now, take things slowly and be kind to yourself.
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