Tips May 4, 2021 14:08

I’m the male member who asked the question below the other day.

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https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/6726 Things led to us staying overnight, having an adult relationship that night and the next morning, and then spending a long time together the next day, having lunch and walking around town. Like everyone suggested in their answers, I had intended to end things fairly quickly if she seemed concerned about the time—but did she see my question post?! She’s more responsive than any woman I’ve dated before, and because she gets so carried away, things just kept dragging on. I watched her get ready in the morning, and she spent more than an hour on her makeup, hair, and so on. Of course, there are people of any gender who take that long to get ready, so it didn’t particularly bother me. But when it came to checkout time, she was very much the type to put herself first and move at her own pace. Maybe it’s true that she was taking me for granted, but I also wondered if she was just a naturally carefree free spirit. Even during conversations, she does listen to me, but sometimes her reactions are incredibly slow. I also remembered that the club’s comments mentioned that she sometimes gives completely off-the-wall answers. Unlike the women I’ve met before, she doesn’t seem to adjust her behavior according to the etiquette expected in a dating club. In a way, I think she may simply be an honest person who doesn’t change how she treats people depending on who they are, and I’ve decided I’d like to continue seeing her. For the time being, I plan to be unresponsive when she asks for more allowance, while being willing to spend money on things we can both enjoy. Mr. Mac and everyone else, sorry for ending up with such an uninteresting outcome. My question is: Have any of you had an arrangement that became more positive around the fifth or sixth meeting, after starting off poorly?
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だて◎ゆめ
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. In my case too, she hasn’t become any more proactive, even after the fifth or sixth date(笑). Since it’s already been three years, I’d really like her to take more initiative. Is this just how things are going to stay? Oh! I just remembered one thing she is proactive about: “Are you free around ○○ next time?” She’s been proactive about that ever since we started seeing each other(笑). Nothing has changed to this day...
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紙ひこうき
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Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中! B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです! 会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > Unlike the women I’ve met before, she doesn’t seem to pander to the etiquette or expected behavior of a dating club. In a sense, I felt she was an honest person who doesn’t change the way she treats people depending on who they are, and that made me want to continue seeing her. You could interpret it that way if you choose to look at it positively, and it may feel refreshing, so I think it would be fine to enjoy seeing her for about six months—around ten times, perhaps. Until you start thinking, “Ah, I knew it,” or “Now I get it—I can’t keep this up anymore,” it may be a worthwhile experience to simply enjoy it. People whose relationships last tend to be a good match from the start and only get better over time. In cases like the questioner’s, even if things drag on, I’ve never seen one last as long as a year.
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I’m Aya, a female member. I’ve never had an experience where my impression of someone improved starting around the fifth or sixth meeting. When things continue, there’s usually a natural compatibility from the beginning, and we get along even better as we spend more time together.
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カズ
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member. “Boring”? Not at all. I’m glad things worked out so well for you. I’ve never had my feelings turn positive after the fifth or sixth meeting. If I don’t come away with a good impression from the first date, I generally don’t meet someone a second time. There have been times when I agreed to a second or third meeting despite not really feeling up to it because they contacted me saying they wanted to see me, but I was never satisfied afterward. So I’m no longer willing to push myself that far just to keep meeting someone.
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