I’m Aya, a female member.
I really don’t think you should give up your virginity through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’s like those high school girls from years ago who sold their bodies to older men of unknown backgrounds they met through dating sites.
Honestly, the fact that you’re even considering selling your virginity is a huge turnoff. If you were my friend, I’d try to stop you—and any adult willing to buy it is seriously creepy.
I don’t know how old you are, but if you’re at least 18 and out of high school—the minimum to join Universe—and you’re a virgin with no plans to get involved with men for a while, then, respectfully, aren’t you perhaps the type who isn’t very appealing to men, either in appearance or personality?
If you had an average appearance, you’d probably meet a boyfriend around your age in everyday life, so you wouldn’t jump straight to giving up your virginity through papa-katsu.
Even if a girl like that gives her virginity to a man old enough to be her father, I think it will only distort her views on romance and relationships, making her even less likely to connect with ordinary men. Please find an ordinary kind of happiness outside of papa-katsu.
Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering as well.
> “A small romantic notion that, at least for my first time, I want to be with someone whose looks I’m attracted to.”
I’ve heard of a woman who, when she decided to start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), wanted her first partner to be a handsome man who was exactly her type. So she deliberately put herself in situations where she might get approached and had her first experience with a handsome man she found attractive.
Apparently, it was a one-time encounter, but she was extremely satisfied and didn’t regret it.
You might think it’s strange to care only about someone’s appearance, but considering that male members of dating clubs often choose their partners mainly based on their face and figure, perhaps her way of thinking was actually closer to that of a man.
> “Respecting myself by asking for a slightly higher allowance because it’s my first experience.”
I think that’s perfectly reasonable.
I understand the opinion that having your first experience through proper romance, with a proper boyfriend, would be ideal. But perhaps she is still a virgin precisely because she hasn’t met someone like that yet. If so, she would be stuck wanting to start papa-katsu but being unable to do so until she meets the right person.
Also, if she hasn’t been able to meet a suitable person so far, there’s no guarantee one will suddenly appear. If she keeps waiting, she may well turn 30 before she knows it.
With that in mind, if she has made up her own mind, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her first partner being someone she met through papa-katsu.
That said, I think it’s only natural for her to want a high allowance in that situation.
There have also been cases in the past where a kind Universe staff member listened carefully to a woman, found a man willing to offer a high allowance, and arranged the meeting.
That staff member is no longer there, and I get the feeling that none of the current staff would go that far. (That’s just my impression, though—there may actually be someone who would.)
I don’t remember the exact amount, but I believe the arrangement was for over ¥500,000 for the first time—possibly ¥700,000, though my memory is unclear—and then continued on the usual allowance afterward, with a man who normally paid around ¥100,000.
The woman was lucky to have such a good staff member. She was also apparently an exceptionally beautiful virgin, around the Platinum or Black class, so that probably played a role as well.
It seems she had told the staff during her interview that she wanted to command a high price. The staff member understood what she meant, and the man was willing to meet those terms. I think it only worked because those two people came together.
These days, though, even if you told the staff, I feel like they would simply say, “We can’t get involved in the allowance amount,” and leave it at that.
So, what you could do now is this: when they ask during your interview, “What monthly allowance are you looking for?” you could say something like:
“For the first time only, I’m hoping for ¥300,000. After that, I’m willing to leave it up to the other person.”
The “first time only” part is important, so please keep that in mind.
Then you could say something vague like that, and after you’re registered, write on your profile:
“For the monthly allowance, I’m using the amount I have in mind for the first partner of my first experience as a guideline.”
There’s a rule that you can’t write the allowance amount yourself, but since you haven’t actually written a number, it might just barely be acceptable.
¥300,000 is only an example, so I think it would be better to choose an amount you wouldn’t mind keeping private.
> “I’d appreciate hearing opinions from male members saying that being someone’s first partner isn’t necessarily much of a benefit.”
Most men probably do feel that way.
But don’t worry. I imagine around 10% of men are specifically attracted to virgins. Even among those who aren’t particularly interested in it, perhaps another 20% might think, “I’ll be the one to give her that experience.”
Those figures are just my personal impression, of course. But 10% of 4,000 people is 400 men, and 30% is 1,200.
With numbers like that, I think there are bound to be some eccentric—or perhaps simply chivalrous—men willing to offer a premium.
If no offers come, you can always wait to meet an ordinary man around your own age.
In any case, if there’s an amount you need in order to avoid regretting your decision, I don’t think you should compromise on it. And perhaps, while you’re waiting, the man of your dreams may appear.
