I’m a female member.

I’m Aya, a female member. That papa probably likes you quite a lot. But since you don’t feel the same way about him, it’s understandable that the arrangement has become painful for you. I think you may have switched to a monthly arrangement too soon. If it’s causing you distress, you don’t have to force yourself—try turning him down gently and reducing the number of meetings. He may pick up on the hint and agree to see you less often, though the risk of being dropped will increase as well. Weigh the risks against the benefits. I hope you can find an arrangement that satisfies you both.

I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the president’s office. > Does papa not keep track of how many times he meets you each month? He probably does keep track to some extent, but I think it also depends on how many meetings you originally agreed on per month. If the agreement was for five or more meetings a month, he may have started finding it a hassle to count them. > Even though we agreed at the beginning on how many times we would meet, he still invites me after we’ve exceeded that number. I think that’s simply the kind of person he is. Since he likes you, he probably suggested a monthly arrangement. Once that happened, he likely started wanting to see you more and more. So he asked whether you could meet even after exceeding the agreed number, and when you said yes, he was probably happy that you were willing to be flexible that month. By now, he may have come to assume that you’ll agree even after the agreed number of meetings has been reached. If you accepted because you couldn’t bring yourself to refuse, you probably also didn’t want to risk losing the monthly arrangement. But if you really want to stick to the agreed terms, you could say: “We’ve already exceeded the agreed number of meetings this month. Would it be possible to receive 80,000 yen for each additional meeting?” There is a chance he may end the arrangement, but if he likes you that much, I feel it will probably be fine. That said, this could also lead to the question of whether the monthly allowance should be reduced if you don’t reach the agreed number of meetings. With that in mind, it may be better to turn him down tactfully, even if you have to say something like, “Sorry, I already have plans that day.”

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. The question is: what did you hope to gain? If the number of meetings is already fixed under a monthly arrangement, there’s no real need to switch from pay-per-meeting. With pay-per-meeting, you’ll simply receive more as the number of meetings increases. Unless you’ll be meeting more often than before and your total monthly allowance will also increase, I don’t really see any benefit to making it a monthly arrangement. If the monthly arrangement means she’ll meet you more often than before, then it does have a purpose. Her allowance increases, and the man gets the pleasure of seeing her rather than simply focusing on the allowance, creating a positive cycle. Still, when you consider the long-term implications, I’m not sure it’s really necessary. P.S. Something that can work well for women is a quota-based pay-per-meeting arrangement. For example, you agree to meet three or four times a month on a pay-per-meeting basis, and if you can’t meet that month, you make up those meetings the following month. From the man’s perspective, the quota effectively becomes the total monthly amount, so he feels motivated to meet as often as possible. It probably depends on the person, but men may also feel a sense of accomplishment or fulfillment from contributing. The number of meetings can even increase by two or three times. After all, there’s nothing unpleasant about being told that someone wants to see you.

I’m Kazu, a male member who always does pay-per-meeting arrangements. Surely you can count them. Maybe she thinks that since it’s a monthly arrangement, she’ll get a better deal by meeting more often. I think agreeing to a monthly arrangement was a mistake. As for me, since I do pay-per-meeting, I only keep a rough count.