Thank you as always for entertaining us with your answers. I’d like to ask about the Don Juan case, as hearing your perspectives could provide useful guidance for navigating papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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(I have no criticism whatsoever of President Kida’s respect for him. As a business owner in this industry, I think it’s only natural to revere an ideal supporter.)
1. Was Don Juan simply bad at judging women?
2. Is the ability to judge women something nobody can really develop? Or, with the right direction and enough effort, can you acquire it to some extent?
I’m not trying to disparage Don Juan at all. On the one hand, there was someone who had relationships with as many as 4,000 papa-katsu girls, married his ex-wife (an AV actress), and was drugged with methamphetamine while in the process of trying to divorce her. On the other hand, there’s the positive example of Kato-chan, who, despite being accused of marrying for the age gap and the money, seems to be doing well so far.
I’ve been a foot soldier in papa-katsu for about five years now, and I feel that my criteria for judgment have become more refined since I started.
(Of course, I still make plenty of mistakes, but I feel that the nature of those mistakes has changed.)
I’d be grateful to hear the thoughts of those of you with more experience.
I’m Taro, a male member.
Since this sounds like a serious question, I’ll give you a serious answer.
I don’t know much about Don Juan—I read one of his books and only glanced at a few online news stories—but basically, he was someone who wanted to sleep with beautiful women and used money to create those opportunities. So if he married someone with a monthly allowance of one million yen, I’d say it was just playing at marriage. He never crossed the chasm that separates the men at dating clubs from a relationship based purely on money.
I only knew Kato-chan from watching The Drifters and skimming online news, but it seems like they genuinely met and fell for each other. It doesn’t sound like he asked her to marry him for money, either. Apparently, while they were dating, worried friends asked if he was all right, so he brought her along and introduced her to them, saying everything was fine. In that sense, I think they had reached a world beyond the kind of relationship you find at a dating club.
She had been ill and showing dementia-like symptoms since shortly after they got married, and later there were serious health scares as well. I think it’s incredible that she stayed by his side through all of that. As a Kato-chan fan, I think she should inherit his entire fortune if she continues supporting him to the very end. I’m a complete outsider with no claim to anything, of course（笑）
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about three years, so I’m still basically an apprentice rookie. But the way I approach these relationships hasn’t really changed from the style I decided on when I first registered.
I can’t deny that I still lack experience as a papa (a male supporter), but I’ve always wanted to face the women I meet and enjoy our relationships together.
For example, on a windy day:
“I’m not going to be offering any services to men on the street in a fluttery skirt.”
“Don’t worry! I’m wearing pants today.”
That sort of thing…
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) should count as part of a woman’s romantic history.
If we’re talking about 4,000 people, then I’d say her romantic experience is practically nonexistent.
Even if someone is very passionate about love, dating one or two people a year—or one person a month—is already a lot. That isn’t really love, is it?
I think it’s simply the result of having fun with 4,000 people.
I doubt she was actually enjoying romance.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think you gradually get better at judging people, but I imagine there are cases where, for example, a man who has only ever dated hostesses gets deceived by a manipulative woman from a more ordinary background.
When someone is a type you’ve never dated before, you have no past experience to draw on, so does that make it harder to judge them?
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