When a papa says, “Work’s been so busy I couldn’t get in touch! I’ll contact you again!”—that’s a standard line used when he no longer plans to meet and is hoping things will just fizzle out, right?
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If he says, “I’ll contact you again after Golden Week,” but still hasn’t reached out at all after the holiday, should I assume it’s over?
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
You can’t necessarily say that “I’ll contact you again” means “I don’t intend to see you anymore,” but it does carry that implication.
Promises without a specific date—like “Let’s go out for dinner sometime” or “Let’s meet again”—are low priority. If someone genuinely wants to see you, they’ll ask about your schedule, like “When are you free next?” and make plans on the spot.
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Sometimes they may be trying to let things fizzle out naturally, while in other cases, you may have simply dropped down their list of priorities and they’re choosing to prioritize other women.
If he genuinely wanted to see you, it would probably be more like:
“I’ve been so busy with work that I couldn’t get in touch! But I’m free on the [date]—would you like to meet?”
So emotionally, I think it’s best to assume it’s already over. That said, he may contact you again after a while.
If he does, it might be best to keep an open mind and not turn him away.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I know what you mean… I sometimes say “I’ll get in touch again” too, regardless of gender.
I’ve never felt hurt when someone said it to me, so I use it when I want to turn someone down gently. I think it’s a kind yet sad phrase.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I think it might be best to wait a while and then get in touch. You can judge the situation based on how they respond.
Relationships through an arrangement club should be serious, but still approached with a sense of fun. Above all, the relationship should be enjoyable and mutually beneficial.
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
Yeah, I might be saying the same thing. I’m going to use blunt wording for the sake of clarity, but when I use expressions like this, I mean “keeping someone on the back burner,” not completely “discarding” them.
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