Why do people look down on or dislike sex workers?

Maezawa from the President’s Office here. > Why do some men look down on or dislike sex workers? I don’t think they look down on them. They simply have reasons for not wanting to meet them. The bottom line is that their goals are different. If you want to meet a sex worker, the normal thing is to go to a sex-work establishment. It may even be better value, and since there are staff there, you can probably expect a certain level of service. Men who sign up for a dating club, however, do so because they want experiences they can’t have through the sex industry. Some men may misunderstand that, but please consider them the exception. So if a man wants something he can’t experience at a sex-work establishment, makes an offer, and then finds out the woman is a sex worker, he may simply think, “In that case, I’ll just go to a sex-work establishment.” It’s really just that, in this setting, they want to meet someone other than a sex worker. That’s why, when they’re only looking for physical intimacy, some men may choose to visit a sex-work establishment—or they may already have a favorite worker. So I think you may be overthinking it.

I’m Takei, a staff member. I think it’s inevitable that people will have prejudices when there are so many different kinds of work. Some people look down on the adult entertainment industry, while others see it as a wonderful profession. Some people view me with prejudice because I work at a dating club, while others tell me it’s a great job. I value the customers who use our services, so whatever people say doesn’t bother me. In the end, I think what matters more than other people’s opinions is how you yourself feel about the work you’ve chosen.

I’m Aya, a female member. I think most men who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) don’t really think deeply about it. They just have the vague impression that these women must have a lot of experience with men or seem somehow “dirty” because they see so many different people. Some responses say that women look down on them more, but most women haven’t even met a sex worker, so they don’t know enough about them to look down on them. People generally don’t announce that they work in the sex industry, after all. At least, that’s how it is among the people I know. It never even comes up in conversation. I happened to become friends with a sex worker once and learned what the reality was like by hearing about her experiences. Still, issues such as whether or not she paid taxes made it difficult for me to respect her fully. That said, I do think part of the reason the hourly pay is so high is precisely because it’s that kind of work.

I’m Chikuwa, a male member. I do use escort services, and I’m always grateful to the women who work in them. But if someone is currently working as an escort, I can just meet her through that service, so I don’t really see the point of paying a premium to meet her through Universe. Unless she’s exceptionally beautiful, of course. Having worked in the industry in the past isn’t an issue for me at all. On the other hand, I’m not a fan of women from the nightlife industry, so someone with significant experience in that world wouldn’t be for me. You can tell from the way they carry themselves, and it makes me think, “Hmm, I don’t really like that.” I never go to cabaret clubs or hostess clubs, so when someone treats me that way, it feels like she sees me as a customer.

I’m Kazu, a male member who finds people saying their work contributes to society rather suspicious. I believe every job helps keep society running and contributes in some way. I agree that working as a sex worker is by no means an easy job. However, aren’t most of the people who look down on sex workers women? I think women’s disdain comes from their aversion to doing a job they themselves wouldn’t want to do. As for why men in dating clubs dislike sex workers, I think it’s because many of the sex workers in dating clubs were already unmotivated at work back when they were in that line of work. One additional point. Yesterday, in my answer to this question—https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/6703—I mentioned that I had previously made offers to women with experience as sex workers. This is when I came to feel that way. Many women with experience as sex workers seemed unmotivated, having earned just enough to get by because they were sex workers, while lacking the drive to succeed in other industries. They made up the vast majority. So, partway through, I changed my approach and began making offers to women with experience at high-end soaplands. At high-end establishments, unmotivated women generally can’t make it. Finding women with high-end soapland experience was extremely difficult. However, thanks to the staff, I was ultimately able to make an offer to one. She was an exceptionally good woman, and I’m glad I met her.