I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
I suppose the question is: “How did you choose the first woman you met?”
I think it depends on the person. You could choose someone based on her profession, such as a private tutor, make a quick decision based on your first impression, or even leave it up to the staff.
Choosing a veteran woman might also be a good idea, since she may teach you the etiquette of dating through a dating club:
- What kinds of places are best for meeting
- What sort of restaurants are suitable
- When it’s best to hand over the allowance during the meal
- How best to invite her to continue things after dinner
When I joined a dating club, I was once asked during my first offer, “Where should we meet? Should I ask the woman?”
I replied, “I think it’s fine to choose a place where you’d like to meet.”
After the date, however, an experienced woman scolded me, saying something like, “He said he asked you, so why didn’t you ask him where he wanted to meet?”
She did have a point. Meeting in a hotel lobby may be preferable to meeting at a train station, for example. It made me think that women probably teach men all kinds of dating etiquette.
Of course, few men will follow everything exactly as they’re taught. But as a basic approach, it may be best to first find out how the woman would like things to go, and then add your own personal touches. That might help things go more smoothly with her.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
For my first offer, I thought long and hard, carefully narrowed down my choices, and decided, “She’s the one!”—so I made an offer to her.
And the result?
She turned me down...
Well, I guess that’s how it goes... (lol)
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I’m in Seattle.
Flag Maker, did things work out with that actress?
Taro, how many hours did it take you to go through 7,000 people? Sounds like a fun way to spend your time.
At first, I chose someone who seemed nice and lived fairly close by. We’ve been seeing each other for two years now.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
When you join, you probably have a certain type of woman in mind that you’d like to date. I chose someone who seemed close to that ideal.
Looking back, I think that was a mistake. I was nervous on the first date, too, and ended up feeling that I hadn’t been able to perform at my best.
So rather than making things even more difficult for yourself by approaching a woman who is exactly your type, I think it’s better to choose someone who seems easy to talk to, based on her profile comments, and who receives plenty of offers. Meeting someone like that while you’re relaxed and have some composure may lead to a better experience.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I looked through all 7,000 profiles and took my time before deciding, but it turned out to be a mistake. So I don’t recommend choosing this way.
I think it’s better to go with your gut. If someone catches your eye, just click. That’s probably the quickest—and best—way to choose.
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