I feel the same way as Aya. I think I’d be completely turned off and start seeing him as dirty the moment he gave me an STI. I’m scared I’d lose interest if my current papa (a male supporter) passed one on to me. After reading recent posts here, I’ve started to feel that losing interest scares me more than actually catching something.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > “The moment I catch an STI from someone, I find them dirty and lose interest.” I think it’s only natural to see things as dirty once you’re involved with a club in the first place. Back when I was a salaryman, I had a senior colleague who said he was too afraid to be with anyone other than his wife. I think that’s how things should be. So just knowing that someone is seeing multiple people makes me see them as dirty and lose interest. The fact that you’re having unprotected sex shows you’re already completely immersed in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and it’s extremely unhygienic and off-putting. Give up unprotected sex as soon as possible. Or limit yourself to one person and quit papa-katsu. You’re already tainted, even before you catch anything.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. When it comes to relationships through an upscale dating club, sexually transmitted infections are something you can’t completely avoid, so I’m especially careful. I don’t bring it up as much anymore, but when I first started dating through the club, I discussed it many times. The topics were incurable STIs and how to prevent them. To date safely, you can reduce the risk by doing what everyone already knows they should do, so let’s keep the risks to a minimum. Of course, condoms alone aren’t enough（笑）

I’m Aya, a female member. As a precaution, I make a point of telling my papa—almost excessively—how afraid I am of getting an illness. For example, I’ll mention news about syphilis increasing among young women, stories I’ve heard from an acquaintance who works in the adult industry, like, “It was so hard because I got sick once a month while I was working,” or the unfortunate connection with infertility. I make it clear that I’m extremely scared. I’ll say, “After hearing stories like that, I’m terrified of illnesses. Even if it were something that could be cured quickly, I absolutely wouldn’t want to catch it.” I feel like that gets across how particular I am about cleanliness. Once, he looked puzzled and asked, “You talk about it that much—have you caught something before? lol” So I gave him a slightly mentally unstable, almost “I’m losing it” kind of answer: “It’s precisely because I’ve never had one that I’m so scared I’m going crazy over it… If I got sick, I might become traumatized and not even be able to be intimate with someone I love, and I’m way too scared of becoming infertile…” That seemed to satisfy him. Men who find it annoying probably wouldn’t put up with it, but I tend to say these things precisely because we’re close. These days, my papa has also become just as cautious about cleanliness, and we’re both afraid of getting sick. I’m sure men would rather not get sick either, so this is just my personal, somewhat clumsy way of handling things.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Huh? Wait, what?? You say you’re afraid of STIs, but you’re having sex without protection. That’s contradictory. I talk about STIs sometimes, and sometimes I don’t. If a woman brings it up, I answer seriously, and I believe safe sex is a given.

I’m Kazu, a male member. > I agree with Aya. Once someone gives me an STI, I think I’d see them as dirty and lose interest. I wondered which post you were referring to, so I put in quite a bit of effort to find it. https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/6635 This is the answer, right? > Do you ever talk about STIs together? Sometimes. It tends to come up naturally when we’re talking about whether someone takes the pill, their past sexual experiences, or people they used to date. I don’t bring it up specifically as a topic of conversation. Personally, I find women who are careless about STIs frightening, even if they don’t have unprotected sex. I perform oral sex, and I receive oral sex as well. I think having sex with someone you can’t talk about these things with carries a higher risk than not using a condom. > Mack > Also, could all the respondents stop saying, “I’ve been in long-term arrangements and never caught an STI!”? > You were just lucky, and I don’t see any benefit in writing that—it only gives the men and women reading this a false sense of security and makes them careless. You’re absolutely right. I’ll keep that in mind going forward.