I’m Aya, a female member, and I’m type B.
In my case, I chose B because I felt that if I selected C, men would come on too strong from the very first meeting, and turning them down would take a lot of effort. With B, I get the impression that I can take my time deciding, and that’s also what I was told during the interview.
Everyone is different, so if you try to fit women into rigid categories, you may miss the subtle nuances of their feelings and end up being disliked more easily.
Maezawa from the president’s office here with an answer as well.
In situations like this, it may help to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Suppose you had taken on a huge amount of debt and felt that selling your body to men was your only option.
The man you met might be much bigger and more intimidating than you. He might even be so much stronger that, if he grabbed you, you couldn’t possibly get away.
Now imagine going to an interview for a place where you might have to deal with someone like that. Since it isn’t a brothel, you can choose your own partner. But you also need the money.
You’d probably think, “I want to turn down anyone who seems dangerous.”
In that situation, would you choose C or B? You can tell at a glance whether you’ll be able to deal with someone, right?
Thinking about it this way may give you some idea of the answer.
> “Both B and C mean you can turn someone down if you feel it’s impossible, and agree if it isn’t. So what exactly does B’s ‘after going on two or three dates’ mean?”
How would you turn him down?
Would he get angry?
Would it be rude?
Would he complain to the club?
Would he demand to know why you were turning him down?
When women think through things like that, some find that turning someone down is surprisingly difficult.
That’s why, with B, you can simply have dinner on the first meeting and then go your separate ways, so you don’t have to refuse anything.
And if he invites you somewhere afterward, you can just say, “I was told the first meeting would be dinner only.” The reason is clear, you won’t hurt his feelings, and you don’t have to worry about him complaining to the club. It makes declining easy.
For a second invitation, you can simply message him on LINE and say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t think this will work for me.”
Women who think this way choose B.
People who choose C tend not to think that far. They take “you can turn down anyone you don’t like” at face value and think, “Then I can turn him down.” To them, that’s simply obvious.
(If you’re allowed to refuse, then of course you can refuse.)
However, in reality, after choosing C and turning someone down, the man may be far more persistent than expected. Even when they decline gently, he may not take the hint, and many women seem to have a very difficult time with this.
Another reason some women choose B is that they don’t want H right away. They want to meet a few times, get to know each other, and then decide.
> “I understand the differences between A, C, and D, but I still don’t understand B.”
For the sake of practice, why not make an offer to a B woman and enjoy dinner only?
If you continue having dinner with B women, you may also get to hear about their perspectives and feelings.
You’ll probably come to understand women better, too.
Some may even ask you, “Why don’t you invite me?”
You’d probably be happy to hear that from a woman.
I think it would be good to try that kind of game as practice as well.
The rule is: never invite her yourself. That’s the restriction.
If you can naturally enter an adult relationship without being the one to initiate, you’ll have reached an advanced level.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Like Kazu, I think everything except option ③ is possible and reasonable.
I honestly don’t understand the questioner’s way of thinking. I really can’t see why you’d be so concerned about such minor differences.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Why do men always want to put everything into neat categories? lol
People are all different, and there are countless reasons for what they do!
Let’s try harder to read the feelings of the person right in front of us. Their answer lies within them—and nowhere else.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it varies from person to person. Everyone may have their own reasons for ①–⑤, and some people may not be able to put their reasons into words—or may not even know what they are.
Also, just like you, women aren’t machines with an on/off switch; they’re human beings with moods and emotions. The reason may differ depending on the situation.
Some reasons I’ve heard that weren’t listed in the question include: “I want to turn him down somewhere other than in person because he might get angry if I refuse on the spot,” and “I can’t decide after meeting someone just once. I need to see him two or three times first.”
Personally, I think all of them except ③ are valid reasons for being a Type B.
