I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
I understand why you feel resentful, but do you really want to meet that filthy old man again—even if it’s to get money for your medical expenses—when he has an STI and can’t even apologize?
Why not blow off some steam at REEAST ROOM, where you can smash appliances and other things to relieve your stress?
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
> If someone gives me an STI, it’s only natural to ask them to cover the medical expenses, right?
If the other person admits that they were the one who transmitted it, I think they would probably pay if you asked them to cover the treatment costs.
In reality, though, some people seem to deny responsibility as soon as they’re asked to pay. Since you say there was no apology this time, I think that’s probably what’s happening here.
In that case, you would have to prove that you caught it from this person, which seems nearly impossible.
Also, generally speaking, if someone knowingly infects another person despite being aware that they have a disease, they may be charged with bodily injury. However, the man probably didn’t know he was infected himself, so I think that would be difficult as well.
> Do you think this person would cover the treatment costs by adding them to my allowance next time?
It may be difficult if you come across as blaming him.
Like the North Wind and the Sun, he might pay if you try being kind to him.
Something like:
“I’m sorry I got angry. It was my first experience with something like this, so I was shocked and lost my composure. Once we’ve both finished treatment, let’s meet again.”
Try being kind in various ways and, above all, get him to agree to meet again. Then, when you see him, ask in a somewhat needy way:
“I’m in a bit of a financial bind this month. Could you possibly increase the allowance a little this time? The treatment costs have left me short on money.”
Something along those lines.
Of course, I do think this is a situation where you have every right to be angry. But the angrier you get, the more you may end up losing.
Flatter him and be kind, and if he ends up giving you more than the treatment costs, that’s lucky. In reality, he may not increase it at all, but even so, I feel it would be better to stay kind than to get angry.
I’m Chikuwa, a male member.
This is the first I’ve heard of “If someone gives you an STI, it’s only natural to bill them for the treatment.” So what if someone gives you the flu? Or COVID? If someone gives you HIV, are you planning to have them support you for the rest of your life?
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
> Mr. Flag Maker,
You keep running into women who seem like a real hassle.
She’s really coming on strong… She should’ve just met them all first before revealing her hand…
Even if you intimidate the other side, this isn’t war or a pre-battle skirmish. Once you let them come within reach, you have to make sure you take them down decisively… Though it’s too late now…
I’m Kazu, a male member.
So, you were tested before meeting that man and the result was negative, then tested again after meeting him and the result was positive—and you had no sexual contact with anyone other than him between the two tests. Is that correct?
If so, it seems highly likely that you contracted it from him. And if you presented that information in a credible way, I think most people would naturally be willing to cover at least the cost of treatment.
However, if his response was, “I’ve been told to abstain from alcohol for a while (crying). Let’s postpone our plans!” then he doesn’t seem to feel responsible.
Based on your question, I get the impression that he probably won’t agree to cover your treatment costs.
