Is it okay to stop responding to—or block—a man when I feel I can’t continue seeing him?

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think it’s perfectly fine to ignore him or block him. If he seems like the kind of person who would understand after you explain your reasons, then I think it’s better to explain. But in most cases, you’re declining because he’s difficult to reason with in the first place, right? There’s no need to tell someone like that something that will only provoke him. Regarding the example of “She seems to work in the nightlife industry, although she’s hiding it,” sending that to the club would only make the man look foolish to the staff, and they probably wouldn’t even bother recording it. I don’t think it would cause the woman any disadvantage. The reason interviewers ask whether a woman works in the nightlife industry is that many men don’t like dating women who do. Dating clubs are more expensive than apps because they offer the added value of interviewing their members. That’s why the accuracy of a woman’s profile is important to the dating-club business. I think staff dislike lies that damage that value and trust. In other words, there’s nothing wrong with working in the nightlife industry itself. What staff dislike is when a woman says during her interview that she doesn’t, yet it’s blatantly obvious to the man that she does. So if a man sends feedback saying, “She seems to work in the nightlife industry, although she’s hiding it,” without any evidence, the staff will see it as nothing more than a baseless accusation. As for “Our values didn’t match,” that’s like a band saying it broke up because of “musical differences.” A failed relationship is obviously because the two people weren’t compatible, so I don’t think it’s worth sending that as feedback. I’ve never experienced being cut off by a woman, but I imagine it would be upsetting. As I mentioned at the beginning, apparently some men get angry about it. I’ve heard women mention this from time to time. So rather than cutting things off explicitly, I think the safest approach is to fade out by leaving messages unread or seen without replying. I learned this from women: apparently, when you block someone on LINE, the messages disappear. If that happens, you won’t be able to screenshot any disturbing messages the man sent and submit them to the club as evidence. So I think it’s better not to block him until you’ve saved the evidence.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I’m voting for Taro! I’m the type who replies, “I’m sorry.” (lol) > Would you feel bad if a woman cut things off after you made her an offer but before anything intimate happened? I wouldn’t feel bad, but I would think, “What a shame!”

I’m Taro, a male member. If you feel it’s not going to work, you don’t have to reply. Saying something like “I don’t think our values are compatible” would probably make things clearer, but part of the reason your values don’t match may be that they won’t simply accept it and say, “I understand.” So it’s debatable whether you should do that. If you want to, go ahead. Personally, I don’t. To be blunt, most male members are probably making offers because they want an adult relationship, so being turned down will almost always make them feel bad. But that can’t be helped. You don’t need to go along with something unpleasant just to spare their feelings. That said, once you’ve made someone feel bad, there’s always a chance they may hold a grudge. It’s probably unlikely, but it’s still a risk, so be cautious. For that reason, I don’t recommend blocking them right away. What they send you can help you judge the situation. Even if you don’t mark the message as read, make sure you read it. If they keep sending messages even though you haven’t replied, or the content gradually becomes more extreme, they may be dangerous, so report them to the club. In that case, it’s fine to mark the messages as read—send screenshots as evidence. There are some dangerous people out there, but the odds are low. On the other hand, there are wonderful men too. That’s what a journey of discovery is like, isn’t it? Good luck, and I hope you meet someone wonderful.

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” Either leaving her message on read or not opening it at all is fine—whichever feels easier for you. You’re better off not sending a reason. I imagine it would feel pretty awful to be cut off without things ever progressing to an adult relationship (intimate). If she’s a C-type, she probably isn’t even considering the possibility of being turned down, so it would likely come as a major shock. With a B-type, it’s easier to accept that things simply didn’t develop.