A question about the woman who was identified and turned down by a respondent on Type E before.

I’m Taro, a male member. As for the woman mentioned in the example, Kaz has already given his assessment, so I’ll consider that case settled. Even if someone isn’t necessarily a “person to avoid,” I do think it’s possible to develop the skill of judging from a profile whether a woman matches your preferences. Since everyone values different things, you have to build your own criteria. Your accuracy improves with experience. That said, if you never have any bad experiences, you may be playing it too safe and missing women who would actually be a good match. So in the end, I think you have to operate with criteria loose enough that you occasionally end up meeting a “person to avoid.” Speaking personally, I recently had such an experience. But it was simply that she didn’t match my tastes at all. By the club’s rules and general standards of common sense, she was a perfectly fine woman.

It’s Seattle. Maybe they were married, lived too far away, or it simply didn’t work out by chance?

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Are there really that many awful women—or awful things like the ones occasionally mentioned here? I honestly don’t know. When you appreciate the good things in life, good things that give you more to be grateful for happen, right? All the women I started dating after entering the workforce ended up marrying me, getting engaged, or moving in with me. Even after those relationships ended, we’ve all stayed in touch to this day. So when it’s two people who both want the other to like them, I just don’t sense anything awful happening… Maybe I’m just oblivious. At the club, I’ve met girls who weren’t as good as I’d hoped, but as Kaz-san writes, there’s probably only one truly awful person in a hundred, if that. I think you’ll feel more sensitive to the joy and be moved more often if you安心して受け入れた方が感受性豊かに喜びを感じれて感動することも多いと思います。先にチェックしようとしたり石橋たたこうとしたりしても、カンニングや八百長したって得られたものに感動も無いのと同じような気はする。

I’m Kazu, a male member. I didn’t pass on her because she was a person to avoid. Please don’t read too much into it. I’ve made over 50 offers through Universe Club, and there’s only been one woman I thought was really awful. She left the club after about two months. Looking at women that way for no particular reason feels like something a dating-site user would do, and I think that attitude comes across to women, too. If you can, I think correcting it will bring you closer to happiness. > Seattle > Maybe she was married, lived far away, or you simply didn’t click? Exactly, something along those lines. She could probably be identified fairly easily, so I was reluctant to add more information without permission and kept things vague.