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The man I met the other day usually works in central Tokyo, while I work outside the city.
We’ve only been on one date so far, but we’ve tentatively agreed to meet again next week.
However, with COVID getting worse, he said he would reconsider and contact me tomorrow.
I don’t know whether he’ll cancel or suggest meeting somewhere else, but I really want to see him.
After we met, he called me and responded promptly to my LINE messages for the next two or three days, but lately his communication has dropped off sharply—no calls at all.
Should I hold back my urge to message him and avoid sending too many LINE messages…?
(I’m the one who sends “Good morning” every day.)
I was thinking of asking him directly when we meet, but we may not be able to meet next week. I’d really appreciate your advice on what I can do to avoid things just fading out like this.
Thank you.
I’m Taro, a male member.
So, are you worried because she said she’d contact you tomorrow, but you’re not sure what to do if she doesn’t?
If so, why not send her a message today along the lines of: “I’m worried about COVID, but I’d be happy if we could meet (emoji of a blushing face looking at you with teary eyes)”?
If she’s on the fence, it should encourage her to decide to meet.
I feel like women who send “good morning” messages every day tend to be more anxious, so I think your concern may be unfounded. Still, since it’s an early-stage relationship, it’s better to eliminate any potential risk factors.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
I’m happy when women reach out to me, but sending a message two or three days in advance—or contacting me once every three or four days—is perfectly enough.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Once someone starts fading out, it can feel like no matter what you do, things will end up that way. To avoid later regretting that you should have done something differently, I think you should do what feels right to you.
That said, it probably depends on the content. If your message might feel burdensome to the other person, it may be better not to send it. If you’ve only been on one date so far, exchanging messages about once a day seems perfectly fine.
Separately, I do think you should clearly tell them, “I really want to see you.”
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Answered by Akai, a staff member at Universe Club.
Thank you for reaching out.
The simplest approach is probably to keep in touch with him.
You mentioned that he’s been contacting you less, but if you stop reaching out altogether, things will likely fade out completely. So I think it’s best to stay patient and continue making contact.
His daily routine may have changed because of COVID-19, making it more difficult for him to communicate. While staying in touch, it may also be important to confirm how you both feel and clearly discuss how you’d like to move forward.
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