I have a question about my very generous papa (a male supporter).
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He always takes me wherever I want to go, treats me to meals at nice restaurants, buys me designer items, and takes me on trips.
He’s always saying, “I’ll buy you whatever you want,” but honestly, luxury brand bags and accessories are the things I want the least… I’d rather have that amount added to my allowance. Is there a good way to turn down those gifts and possibly ask for a higher allowance at the same time?
I’m Taro, a male member.
You see questions like this fairly often. They should just write “Payment method: cash only” in their profile（笑）
Even in a regular relationship, some girls don’t like receiving presents, so I don’t think it’s necessarily something specific to dating clubs. It may be a minor point, but once you’ve built a certain level of trust, I think it’s best to gradually show your personality and opinions and create a comfortable dynamic. In that context, you can simply say that you don’t like receiving presents.
On the other hand, if you’re going to deceive him completely, just accept the gift enthusiastically and head straight to a pawnshop. That’s what cabaret club hostesses do, right? I’ve heard stories about girls bringing in several identical bags all at once after Christmas.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
It’s a good idea to let him know early on that you’re not interested in designer brands.
If you tell him early that you’d be happier with cosmetics, clothes, furniture, bedding, or everyday necessities, he may buy you those kinds of things whenever the opportunity comes up. Bringing it up much later might seem a little odd…
That way, he can also enjoy the feeling of living together with you. Shopping for groceries together at the supermarket can feel a little like cohabiting, too…
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you’re hoping for a long-term relationship with your papa (a male supporter), it’s probably best to say, “I really don’t need it,” and ask him to buy you something else you like. Otherwise, he may realize you’re not actually using or wearing the gift if you sell it.
For example, you could have him buy you luxury cosmetics to save on your makeup expenses, or ask for skincare products instead. If he buys you consumables, it may feel like you’re getting a little extra allowance.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
In Japan, there’s a custom of thinking that receiving a gift feels less awkward than being given cash.
I think simply turning it down would be easy enough, but asking for a higher allowance on top of that would be difficult.
That’s why it seems fairly common to have them buy something with a high resale value and then take it to a pawn shop.
That said, people usually want you to wear the gifts they give you.
So rather than selling an unused item with a high resale value, it may be better to use it a little, then sell the previous one when they buy you something from the same category again.
Or you could just accept the gifts as they are without overthinking it.
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