I have a question about my papa (a male supporter), who always takes me to nice restaurants whenever we meet.
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There are times when his table manners seem a little questionable, and I’m not sure whether I should point it out. What do you all think? Would it be better not to say anything?
For example, he neatly folds his napkin after eating and leaves it that way, eats bread that has fallen onto the tablecloth, and wipes parts of his body other than his hands with the oshibori (wet towel)…
I’m Saito, a columnist ♪
In my case, I respond differently depending on whether someone says something or not, regardless of whether they’re a woman or a man.
As for things like how they hold their chopsticks or rice bowl, rather than letting them bother me, I basically try not to pay attention. The person pointing it out has to be much more careful, after all.
Of course, I don’t say anything when we first meet. Even if they walk into the restaurant while still putting on their coat, I don’t say anything.
I just don’t meet them a second time.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I usually don’t point things like that out to the other person.
I once had a close boss who would wipe his face with the oshibori—and sometimes even blow his nose with it—but I never said anything. It’s unbelievable, though.
I think you should probably handle it the same way. Work on your ability to let things slide.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Enjoying the meal is more important than perfect manners.
Since this is Japan, I think those three things are perfectly fine even at a French restaurant.
More than anything, I hope the restaurant staff don’t worry about things like that and simply enjoy themselves. Ideally, I’d love for them to be moved by the experience.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
I believe table manners were originally meant to keep people from making others uncomfortable, so I think it’s best not to point things out too much.
If it’s just something like the example you gave, I’d probably pretend not to notice and let it slide.
If their behavior is bothering the people around them or drawing strange looks, though, I do feel it might be better to gently mention it.
I think it’s better to enjoy the meal without getting too hung up on formalities.
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