My papa (a male supporter) often tells me things like, “You’re so attractive, I feel like you’ll leave me for someone else soon.” But I think, “Then why not increase my allowance? Wouldn’t that make me less likely to leave?”

This is Saito, a columnist♪ I think you’re absolutely right. By the way, don’t you think the man you’re seeing wants to hear you say, “You’re so attractive, Mr. XX, that even if other men offered me a lot of money, I’d choose only you♡”? That’s pretty creepy. I thought about how I approach things, and I always meet women while being prepared to end things at any time. So if a problem suddenly comes up, I believe you should feel free to walk away. That’s how I always think about it.

When he tells her to quit and be his alone, he gets scolded. And when he (somewhat cutely?) confesses that he doesn’t want her to go anywhere, she tells him to pay up… The male members have it tough too, being faced with young women like that. I actually feel a little sorry for them. As for the question, in your case, since there are no real feelings involved, even if you get a bigger allowance, you’ll probably move on to someone else if a more generous supporter comes along. Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member. That’s not how it works. Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t a system where the papa who offers the most gets exclusive possession of someone, like in a slave auction. So that’s not really the way to think about it. Women aren’t thinking, “I’ll do whatever I’m told as long as the allowance is high enough,” either, are they? That belongs to the world of selling oneself or human trafficking in early Showa-era Japan or impoverished countries. Papa-katsu is much more casual than that.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, and I’ll answer this one too. Most men decide in advance how much they’re willing to give as an allowance. And for some reason, they tend to feel confident that amount is appropriate. So when a woman suddenly stops contacting them, they say things like: “Why do you think that is?” “She seemed like she was having such a good time.” “She never complained about anything.” Even if you suggest, “Maybe the allowance was too low?” they’ll say, “That can’t be it.” It seems that many men don’t realize that some women can put up with things without showing it in their attitude or expressions at all. > Wouldn’t it occur to them that this might be the reason? Apparently not. So you have to explain that the allowance isn’t enough in a way even an insensitive man can understand. But women who bring up the subject of allowance are disliked as being too money-minded, because men don’t like having that conversation. It’s really difficult. At this point, perhaps the only option is to say something obvious, like: “My friend was apparently only getting ¥〇〇, and she put up with it for the first three meetings, but he still didn’t increase her allowance, so she blocked him and ended things.” But there’s also a good chance he’ll assume you’re actually talking about yourself, which could be risky. I can’t think of a particularly good way to handle it.

I’m Taro, a male member. Probably not. There’s no real limit, after all. But I do think it’s true that they genuinely don’t want to lose someone they really like. So if you actually get an offer from someone you’re interested in, just tell them your terms directly and negotiate. I’m sure they’ll go as far as they can. A lot of girls don’t do that, though. Even companies negotiate prices with their suppliers the same way. They look for a cheaper option, but in the end, the price changes—not the other party. Getting both the money and the other benefits is probably the best strategy. But don’t lie. Don’t invent some generous papa, for example. As a decent person, you should draw the line there.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. > “Then why not just increase my allowance? That way, I wouldn’t leave, would I?” Unfortunately, that’s not how I see it. Women tend to admire men who give generous allowances, while men tend to find women who ask for smaller allowances cute. Also, an increase in allowance reflects the value of both parties. A woman receives a higher allowance because she’s attractive and worth it, while a man has to pay more because he himself isn’t valuable enough. Women can feel confident about receiving a high allowance, but for men, it can also amount to bragging about being an unpopular, creepy guy who has to pay a lot to get attention… Whether or not that bothers you is another matter. No matter how rich someone is, I think few people actually want to pay more and more just to have someone spend time with them. Men also find it boring if the other person doesn’t see any value in them.