Since COVID, we’ve been eating Uber Eats at my papa’s apartment more often, and he always orders whatever I want. If it’s lunch, he’ll order pancakes or dessert too!
This content is machine-translated.
But he ends up eating more than half of what I ordered. He never lets me have even a bite of his food, and sometimes my papa doesn’t order anything for himself at all.
Since it doesn’t seem like it’ll be enough, I always say things like, “Why don’t you order a little more?” or “Shouldn’t you order something for yourself too?” before placing the order. But he doesn’t order anything and takes my food instead.
I can’t figure out what kind of mindset would make him do that. He never did this when we ate out.
I know my papa is the one paying, but…
There was a question a little while ago from someone who was having trouble because their partner ate slowly. Could it be that he also thinks I eat slowly? Or does he think, “I paid for it, so it’s mine”?
I always go home and immediately eat a cup of instant ramen…
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
I think she probably means that she wants you to share some with her first.
Or maybe she used to say that at first, but has started leaving it out. I think she wants to eat some of whatever you ordered.
She always orders the same things for herself, so rather than ordering something herself, she wants to try what you ordered.
She may not know how much she’ll eat until she tries it, but once she tastes it and finds it delicious, she ends up eating quite a lot.
As for how to handle it, I think the key is to say:
“I’ll order extra since we’re sharing.”
Then actually order more than usual—about twice as much as you would normally eat.
If there’s food left over, you can just say, “Oh, you’re not eating much today?” and it should be fine.
In any case, the trick is to order twice as much of whatever you want to eat.
Oh, but I don’t think ordering two servings of the same dish is a good idea. It would be better to order several different things you want to try. If she asks, you can simply say, “I’m in the mood for both.”
(Though in reality, it’s because she’ll be eating some too.)
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Taro, a male member.
That’s an interesting phenomenon. Maybe sharing the same food gets you excited?
First of all, you should clearly tell her that it’s not enough. You can even say something like, “I end up eating cup noodles after I get home.” If she isn’t doing it deliberately, she should realize it and adjust. That might lead to her ordering enough for two, or you might establish a routine where you add more while saying, “There you go again~”
If you’re planning to see each other for a long time, I think it’s important to communicate instead of letting these little things build up.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
What is this even about?!
When you meet your papa, bring a cup of noodles with you. After you finish whatever you ordered through Uber Eats, just add hot water and eat it.
If he asks why, tell him, “You always eat so much that I’m still hungry.”
People that thoughtless won’t understand unless you spell it out.
Marika
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Every night, my daughter orders me to “make a late-night snack,” so I obey. We split it and eat together. This is Paper Airplane, a male member.
I understand sharing a meal, and I can also understand a woman asking me to help because she wants to try many different dishes or can’t finish everything. But not having enough food?? That part is a mystery to me…??
Couldn’t you anticipate that and order roughly twice as much as you can eat? That way, you could enjoy twice as many of the dishes you want.
Even when we go out to eat, I usually have her order about twice as many different dishes as she normally would, choosing whatever she likes. That way, I get to enjoy a variety of foods too…
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Sorry, but I don’t know the reason either. Maybe what you order just looks delicious to him.
Next time, I think you should order two servings of whatever you want.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
