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Apr 9, 2021 13:21
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Other
I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Hmm, I can’t really relate to that.
Of course, my daughter is important to me. But she’s her own person. Worrying about what her parents think is just parental ego. Children have their own lives, and I believe they should be free to live them without anyone ordering them around.
You mention being intimate without protection, but that’s her choice too. Leaving aside anything forced, some women choose to receive extra money for doing so.
The people who choose to do it and the people who choose to accept it are all strangers to one another. Everyone has their own way of thinking. If you can’t accept someone’s values, you can simply walk away—that’s all there is to it.
Other
If my daughter is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) of her own free will and choosing those kinds of men, then I might consider it her responsibility.
But if it were rape or groping, I’d 〇〇 that man.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
I think men who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are able to do things like that because they shut out the thought of, “What if this were happening to my own daughter?”
I heard this somewhere, but apparently, when men view women as sexual objects, they don’t see them as human beings—they see them as things. Not as equals, but as “objects” they’re free to do whatever they want to, even break, without being forgiven. Apparently, that’s the mindset behind sexual desire.
To know whether that’s really true, we’d have to ask a neuroscientist, but in a sense, papa-katsu men see women as “things,” so they don’t see us as human beings like their own daughters.
Sometimes I wonder if papas are trying to make up for that guilt by paying large amounts of money.
When I think that this is the background behind why we’re able to receive such generous allowances, I feel once again that you can’t do papa-katsu unless you’re good at deceiving yourself.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Maybe it’s because I don’t have a daughter, but my partner feels like she’s somewhere between my own child and grandchild, so I’m fond of her（笑）
Of course, I would never do anything terrible to her.
Since we started seeing each other, we’ve kept in touch daily and go on dates twice a month. I’m happy to go, and she seems happy to come too（笑）
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
If I had a daughter who chose to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) of her own accord and ended up in that situation, I’d tell her, “Are you stupid? You need to protect yourself properly.”
Of course, I would never do anything so awful myself, but there are people like that in the world. If you don’t either fight back or run, you’ll just be preyed upon.
Also, while everyone is someone’s daughter or son, I don’t think that means they’re necessarily a father or mother.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
I don’t think there are people at Universe who treat others horribly.
You may be saying that you’re worried because there are people like that on apps, but if so, you should register with Universe.
For example, I assume you were born because your mother and father conceived you naturally. Are you suggesting that people should stop having children and lead humanity toward extinction?
People won’t be drawn to someone who treats others terribly.
I think everyone wants to meet good people.
And those encounters happen as a result of thinking for yourself and taking action. If you do nothing and believe that staying home and never meeting anyone is the safest option, then I don’t think you’ll have any good encounters.
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出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
If I found out my own daughter was being treated horribly, I’d beat the person responsible senseless.
But this is about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), right? She’s taking on a certain amount of risk in exchange for compensation, so I’d scold my daughter first.
After all, as long as she continues with papa-katsu, those risks will always be part of it.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
If I had a daughter, I don’t know how old her partner would be, but she’d probably end up having unprotected sex, contracting an STI, or getting pregnant anyway. As long as she wasn’t a minor or being raped, and it was something she consented to, wouldn’t it ultimately be a matter of her own choice?
After reading Mac’s answer, I thought, “That makes sense,” so I’ll borrow the idea and say this too: I don’t do anything to anyone—regardless of who they are—that I myself would consider cruel.
Unfortunately, though, there are people who do cruel things. Those people are incapable of showing consideration or respect for others, so I suppose they’re the kind of people who can do such things without remembering that everyone is someone’s child.