The words in my head are always “Die.”
I tell myself “die” in my head once every ten seconds. Even though I want to stop, I can’t, and it’s really bothering me. I say it whether I’m alone or with someone else. When I’m alone, I don’t even know who I’m saying it to, but if I feel even slightly uncomfortable, I sometimes direct it at the other person…
Even while talking, I sometimes say it to my papa (a male supporter). I’m fully aware that I have a pretty nasty personality and I’m trying to improve, but I feel like I’m only becoming worse.
Please tell me how I can develop a calmer state of mind.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here—I’ll answer too.
If you really want to improve things, how about replacing the words that come to mind every ten seconds with “I like you”?
Whenever something unpleasant happens, just say “I like you.” Then, if you accidentally say it out loud, your partner will be happy.
They’ll ask, “Why are you suddenly saying you like me? What’s going on?”
And if that annoys you, just say “I like you” again.
Even if you mean something different inside, somehow, simply doing that may help things go smoothly between you.
How about starting the “I like you” strategy today?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Isn’t it simply a case of still having a teenage edgelord phase even after turning 18?
Thinking “go die” to yourself, writing it where anyone can see it, or actually saying it out loud isn’t just a sign of a bad personality—it shows that someone’s character is still immature. If they took a moment to look at themselves calmly, they’d probably realize how childish and embarrassing their behavior is.
Once they become aware of their own edgelord phase and feel ashamed of it, I think they’ll naturally grow out of it.
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
That doesn’t necessarily mean you have a bad personality, does it? Maybe you’re just hard on yourself and others.
Whenever something pisses me off, I’m constantly yelling, “Drop dead!” too.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
When you use negative language, negative things tend to happen. Conversely, people who use positive words tend to have good things happen to them. Both misfortune and happiness can create a chain reaction.
Instead of saying “Drop dead,” try saying “Thank you.” When receiving a purchase at a convenience store: “Thank you for putting it in the bag.” When someone brings you water at a restaurant: “Thank you for bringing me water.” When someone compliments you: “Thank you for complimenting me.” When someone points out a mistake at work: “Thank you for pointing out my mistake.” Before bed: “Thank you for making it safely through another day.” If you keep saying “thank you” over and over, the words “Drop dead” will gradually disappear from your mind.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Mac,
When you think of your life as having already ended once, it really does make things feel easier.
Perhaps you haven’t experienced a setback severe enough to make you feel like your life is over yet.
These days, no one really cares about anyone else, so if you think of it as starting a new life after the old one ended, you can do anything. If you turn that negative energy around, it can become the power to keep going.
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