My papa eats way too fast, so I always end up making him wait. When we talk while eating, I eat even more slowly, which makes the difference in speed even more obvious. It’s really stressful and puts a lot of pressure on me. I’m eating faster than usual in my own way, but my papa is unbelievably fast.
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I also find it painful when he stares at me while I’m still eating after he has finished. At some point, I can’t even tell whether I still have an appetite anymore.
Sometimes I eat so quickly that my stomach starts to hurt.
If he finishes eating that quickly, does that mean he’s rushing me because he wants to move on to the next thing sooner?
It scares me that he seems unwilling to even let me say I’d like to eat a little more slowly.
What do you all do in situations like this?
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I eat hot food while it’s still hot. Out of respect for the person who prepared and served it, I eat it right away.
When I was a student, I often cooked for my club. Some people ate a lot, while others were so quick-handed they practically picked at the food as I was making it. But either way, I remember being very happy.
Next time, just say, “Could you make the portion half-size?”
When someone says, “Please make it smaller,” I take that to mean, “Serve a slightly smaller portion while keeping the presentation balanced.”
So it often doesn’t end up being that much less. lol
I usually start eating before the woman does, but we check the portions together and do our best to finish everything.
If it really doesn’t work for you, don’t hesitate to tell her. I don’t think she means any harm.
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I’m Aya, a female member. I totally get it. I’m also the type who eats slowly while chatting, but when a man is waiting for me, the pressure makes my stomach hurt.
What I do—especially with a papa I’m close to—is compliment him.
I’ll say something like, “You eat as fast as a college student after a sports club practice, Mr. ○○! LOL.” It comes across as complimenting him on being young, and many of them seem pleased. It depends on the person, but try praising his fast eating on purpose. If you keep complimenting him with a smile, some time will pass.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I feel more at ease when the girl takes her time eating.
> I’m already eating faster than usual, but my papa eats insanely fast.
I completely understand. When the girl eats quickly, I end up rushing even more than usual, barely chewing my food, and feeling anxious.
I think men are probably just fast eaters, so I don’t think you need to worry about it that much. Unless the man you’re with is very slim, I really don’t think you need to worry at all.
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They just eat quickly.
You’re overthinking it.
Seriously, what is that persecution complex?
Something’s clearly off with your mental state.
You should be seeking counseling, not posting in a Q&A box.
Sorry for answering so quickly, too.
Marika
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