I’m a female member, and I have three questions.

I’m Taro, a male member. This is actually a pretty interesting question. Everyone’s different, but I’ll share how I see it in my own case. First, by “professional-looking,” I mean both someone with experience working in the adult entertainment industry and someone who has had a papa (a male supporter) for a long time. What they have in common is that they seem intent on providing a service appropriate to what they’re being paid. I don’t have any negative feelings about it—I just think, “Ah, she seems like a pro.” When it comes to being cautious, I think someone seems professional if she maintains a solid guard without ruining the mood. If she’s so wary that her words or actions make the other person uncomfortable, she seems more like an amateur. Insisting on agreeing about protection in advance or demanding the allowance upfront comes across badly. So does counting the bills after receiving them. On the other hand, my impression is that turning off all the lights is more common among girls who aren’t used to this. If she suggests showering together, she seems professional to me. But if we actually shower together and she’s simply there without doing much of anything, I assume she’s just very cautious. If she washes me thoroughly, I figure she may have experience in the adult entertainment industry. If she carefully washes me while pulling the skin back from the head, I’m pretty sure of it. I even discreetly glance around to see whether there might be a cup with antiseptic mouthwash in it. Conversely, if there’s none of that but she gets playful with me in the bathtub, I might think it was a preference of a previous papa or boyfriend. When I suspect someone has industry experience, I try to test her. If I say “90 minutes” instead of “an hour and a half” and she understands, I shout “Bingo!” internally. The same goes if I casually say “70 minutes” and she responds naturally without saying, “Huh?” I’ve also heard that women with this kind of experience count men as “one,” “two,” and so on, but I haven’t tried testing that yet. I hope this helps.

I’m a male member, BB7. ① What kinds of words or actions make you feel that a woman is wary of you? ② Which shower behavior seems more “professional”? →Based on my experience so far, women who bring their own bags into the shower have tended to seem more like professionals to me. But lately, I’ve started to feel that “seeming professional” = “being highly cautious” = “not trusting me as a person,” viewing me only as a customer and this as a one-time arrangement. Many women working in escort services would either bring their bags into the shower or let the man go in first and then join him afterward, so he wouldn’t have any time alone in the room. That also made them seem professional to me. ③ What does “professional” even mean in the first place? ・I consider a woman who sees men only as customers to be a professional. The “Thanks for your business—see you next time!” type.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. I actually find it motivating when someone is cautious around me—or rather, it leaves me with a good impression. It makes me look forward to seeing how things unfold.

I’m Chikuwa, a male member. I feel like they all come across as very professional. Of course, I understand that being cautious is only natural for self-protection. But from our perspective, if a woman is that guarded and professional, we’d be better off asking a professional in the adult-entertainment industry— it would be cheaper and the service would be better than paying a high fee through Universe. I believe the reason we pay a considerable setting fee, dine together at a far-from-cheap restaurant, and spend that much time together is to earn her trust, hopefully have her like us as people, and then be able to enjoy our time together afterward. Male members also have an interview with the staff when joining Universe, present identification, and go through a screening process. I think that’s also meant to give women a sense of trust. When someone says they don’t like women who seem too professional, I think they mean they don’t want to be treated emotionlessly like part of an assembly line just for the money. It’s nice when we can interact as two people and she can feel at least some warmth or fondness toward us. Without that, there’s really no point in Universe. By the way, I’m happy when a woman says, “Let’s take a shower together.” I’d be willing to say it myself. If you feel it comes from thoughtfulness rather than caution, wouldn’t everyone be happy?

I’m a male member, and my username is Paper Airplane. Regarding point ①: > Agreeing in advance to use protection, > and receiving the allowance as soon as you enter the hotel— that makes me think she’s very experienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Whether she brings up the allowance before leaving the hotel or discusses it upfront after entering, I’d reach the same conclusion: she’s quite experienced with papa-katsu. Just being able to talk openly about the allowance is enough for me to assume she’s pretty experienced, so from that point on, I switch into “papa-katsu-savvy mode” and respond accordingly, staying one step ahead. I think dimming the lights is perfectly normal. As for taking a bath, I think either way is fine. That said, the fact that you’re asking this question here already makes you a papa-katsu pro. And if that helps you find a wonderful man and eventually graduate from papa-katsu, then you’ll be the real papa-katsu pro—a graduate. I think that would be wonderful. That’s what you should aim for. We also hope to become the kind of papas who can be chosen by women like that—or rather, precisely because they’re women like that: women who can tell the difference and choose us, and who are so wonderful that, after meeting the right man, they can think, “I’m ready to graduate.”

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here. I’ll answer this one too. Thanks for your question. > ① What kind of words or actions make you feel that you’re being treated with suspicion? It’s not any one specific thing—it’s more the overall impression. That said: > Agreeing beforehand that a condom will be used Of course, this is something that should be discussed in advance. However, some men apparently feel that bringing it up beforehand makes a woman seem like a professional. Still, if you don’t mention it in advance, some men may complain at the last minute that this isn’t what they agreed to. So I think discussing it beforehand is only natural. But if you don’t want to come across as too professional, apparently bringing it up right before penetration seems less professional. > Receiving the allowance as soon as you enter the hotel Some men also dislike this because they feel it seems too professional. Actually, it makes me wonder how often these men use delivery escorts. There are even men who don’t want to pay the ¥5,000–¥10,000 for a meal under the Universe rules until afterward, so I suppose there are bound to be some who dislike paying the allowance upfront as well. However, leaving it until later can put the woman at a disadvantage. You get strange men saying, “You never mentioned an allowance beforehand, so I thought this was romantic. You want money?” (Absolutely unforgivable.) Or there may be a gap between the allowance the woman expected and what the man had in mind, leading to, “Is that all?”—though she can’t bring herself to say so. Sometimes the amount is even reduced from what was agreed at the beginning. Because things like this can happen, I think it’s perfectly normal to receive the allowance as soon as you enter the room. > ② Which approach to showering seems more professional? I don’t think one is more professional than the other. Is there even such a thing as judging whether someone is professional based on that? That said, showering together doesn’t really give the impression that the woman is being cautious or guarded. It’s fun, too. Oh, and some men may feel that a woman seems professional if she washes them. Come to think of it, someone once told me, “Professionals carry Isodine around with them.” I had no idea what they meant, but when I searched it, I found something saying that they apply Isodine to a man’s private parts to check for STIs. I wonder whether you can really tell that way… > ③ What does “professional” even mean in the first place? I don’t think it has anything to do with hostess work. I assume it refers to whether someone has experience working in the sex industry—whether she used to be a professional or is still active. However, women who work in the adult entertainment industry may be classified as a B or something at Universe. The reason is the same as for men: they want to enjoy dating. If that’s the kind of woman she is, I feel you can still have a good time without fixating on her occupation…

I’m Kazu, a male member. ① The only time I really feel like I’m being treated with suspicion is when she asks to communicate via SMS. All three things you mentioned seem perfectly normal to me, so I wouldn’t assume she was being cautious. That said, I haven’t experienced this myself, but if she suddenly asks for her allowance as soon as we enter the room, I don’t get a very good impression—even though I’m the type to hand over the allowance right away. It makes her seem desperate or like she has a lot of experience with prostitution. ② If I had to choose between those two options, I’d say going in together seems more professional. I think it’s only natural to bring your valuables with you. On the other hand, every woman who suggested showering together right from the start had experience working in the adult entertainment industry. However, there are also women who shower together after becoming more comfortable with each other, so I wouldn’t assume that someone has that kind of experience just because she wants to shower together. At most, I might think she’s used to other dating partners who like to shower together. ③ In the context of this question, I took “professional” to mean that she seemed to have a lot of experience in the adult entertainment industry or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I interpreted it as essentially meaning, “You’re pretty experienced.” What’s wrong with a woman being experienced? lol That said, if she seems to have extensive experience with prostitution, it turns me off because I worry about sexually transmitted infections. Experience in the adult entertainment industry doesn’t bother me, since I assume she would have more knowledge about those things.