I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Thank you for your question.
> I didn’t use protection, and I got nothing in return. If he had shown how much he valued me in some tangible way, I think I could have accepted it as a wonderful memory.
Whether this was papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or not isn’t really the point.
You regret that:
- He didn’t use protection.
- You didn’t receive any extra money or an additional gift.
I don’t know why you chose him, but in that case, I think you should have chosen someone who would pay a generous allowance—or someone who seemed likely to continue treating you well afterward.
Among men who prefer virgins, many probably want to continue seeing the woman long-term because they were her first partner.
On the other hand, if a man values virginity itself, I imagine he would have offered a substantial allowance.
Apparently, someone at Universe Club once paid ¥600,000 for a virgin. People like that are probably rare, though…
This applies to anything, but if you have specific wishes, I think it’s better to communicate them clearly. Otherwise, you may end up regretting not having said what you wanted.
Things won’t always go exactly as you hope, since the other person has their own wishes too. Even so, it’s important to discuss things properly and only proceed once you’re comfortable with the arrangement.
> Does giving a man my virginity increase the chances that he’ll continue to cherish me?
If he’s a man who specifically prefers virgins, I think the chances of him treating you well increase considerably.
However, if he values virginity itself, I think you should prioritize the allowance offered at the time rather than what may happen afterward.
Some men have both qualities: they offer a substantial allowance for the first meeting and continue to treat you well afterward.
When I saw “YSP,” I wondered if it meant Yamaha. But when I searched for it, I found the phrase “YSP”—a term coined by men!?
So apparently it’s a term men often use.
I don’t think YSP is the norm. In the first place, I don’t think a man would make an offer if he wasn’t attracted to you.
I’m Kamihikōki, a male member who got promoted by his wife from “useless” to “Hey, you do serve a purpose” after fixing a clogged drain at home.
I don’t think it’s simply a case of the older guy being the only one who benefited.
It feels more like just a necessary step along the way—albeit an annoying one…
Since you didn’t have anyone you actually liked anyway, I think it would have felt the same no matter who it was, unless it was someone you loved.
It’s strange in itself to attach added value—money, gifts, and so on—to virginity. The moment you put a price on it, you’re essentially “selling” your virginity, so doesn’t that feel wrong to you?
I can’t deny that your decision was somewhat impulsive, but it’s not as though this will determine the course of your life. It was simply your “first time,” something everyone experiences.
If it was unpleasant, you just need to forget about it as soon as you can.
Marika
