I’d like to meet a papa (a male supporter) who’s willing to maintain a long-term dinner-only relationship with no adult relationship (intimacy). How can I find someone like that? And should I tell him that this is what I’m looking for? I’d appreciate any tips.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ Well, if it were just dinner, I’m a reasonably successful business owner myself, so I have plenty of opportunities to dine with actresses, celebrities, and TV announcers. I use papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) so I don’t blur the lines between my personal and professional life and make a mistake in situations like that. lol You say it’s dinner only, but if there’s nothing a man can learn from you, then it’s simply a waste of his time. Being appealing enough to satisfy him with dinner only is what matters most, but there are also plenty of women who are attractive and have an adult relationship (intimate) as well. I think that’s the reality.

I’m in Seattle. I offer Type A arrangements, and they usually last for over a year. I only continue with people who are fun to talk to. Someone chatty—and even better if they live nearby—is ideal. We try each other’s hobbies, too.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If you register as Type A, the number of people you can meet becomes much smaller, so unless you’re exceptionally lucky, it’ll probably be even more difficult. You may have no choice but to register as Type B or C and hope for the chance of meeting a good man—like searching for your prince. It’s possible if she’s truly innocent, but the fact that you’re asking here and trying to verify things in advance suggests that it’ll be quite difficult…

I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer as well. Thank you for your question. In the case of Universe, I think it would be quite difficult, but there are still men who make offers to women with Dating Type A. When you hear what these men have to say, it’s something like this: “If a woman only wants to have dinner together indefinitely, she’s just treating it as work, so I don’t feel inclined to make an offer. But if she’s the kind of woman who, rather than seeing it that way, might gradually become interested in a man after having dinner together dozens of times as two people getting to know each other, then I would want to make an offer.” In other words, it comes down to potential. The two types of women may seem similar, and if someone lies about it, there’s really no way to tell. Take hostesses, for example. They’re providing conversation purely as part of their work, and they sometimes have dinner alone with men outside the club—what are known as accompanying a client or after-hours dates. Basically, it’s just dinner. But since the man may spend millions of yen at the club for that woman, if she tries to keep things completely free of intimacy forever, he’ll eventually leave. So in many cases, she keeps putting it off and stretching things out, but when she feels she’s reached her limit, she becomes intimate with him. It’s what you might call a “reward.” However, I don’t think the person asking this question fully understands that. If you only look at things superficially and say you want “dinner only,” men won’t want to meet you in the first place. You need to think about how to get a man’s attention and come up with a strategy. That said, there aren’t many men looking for a woman who is that calculating. In reality, they’re more likely to prefer a woman who, despite saying she only wants dinner, is easy to fall for—or who gradually comes to like the man herself. Some men may even enjoy spending six months pursuing a woman like that. I think they may simply want to enjoy romance. But even if she is calculating, it amounts to the same thing as long as the man feels he was able to enjoy a romantic relationship. Perhaps you could become the kind of woman who says: “I’m basically thinking dinner only because I’m afraid of an adult relationship (intimate), but I do like older men, so if I come to like someone, I might eventually have an adult relationship with him. That’s only natural between two people.” I feel that if you became that kind of woman, you might be able to find someone. Also, sometimes a relationship starts with an adult relationship (intimate) and continues that way, but eventually the man stops caring so much about having one. He may become satisfied simply with meeting you. It may sound unbelievable, but there are men who become like that when a relationship continues for years. Looking for someone like that is another option. > Should I tell the other person that this is how I feel? If you don’t tell him, it may end up becoming an adult relationship (intimate), so I do think you should say something. However, if you’re too direct, I think there’s a greater chance that he’ll end things right there, so it may be difficult to approach. At Universe, there is a Dating Type A. If you choose that, men will generally understand without you having to explain. However, you’ll receive fewer offers. Also, the interview standards are stricter for Type A, so you need to be aware of that.

I’m Chikuwa, a male member. If you register as Dating Type A and receive an offer, that means you’ve found a potential match. From there, how long you can keep things going probably depends on your skill and finesse. It seems difficult unless you come across as very pure and genuinely innocent, as if there are no other men in your life. You’d probably need exceptional beauty and charm as well. And I think it’s difficult to come up with a reason for a male member to go out of his way to meet you. He needs a reason to choose a Type A woman when he could meet other beautiful female members for an adult relationship. It sounds challenging. When I had just joined, I didn’t really understand how things worked and made an offer to a Type A woman myself. We’re still in touch, though I only see her occasionally because she’s fairly low on my list of priorities. She’s beautiful and has a refined, wholesome vibe.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I think you should register as Type A for the relationship style.