Men who finger women with saliva on their fingers: stop it right now. Why don’t you understand?

I’ll answer too, as Maezawa from the president’s office. I’m honestly shocked by how extreme the questioner’s prejudice is. To begin with, this isn’t something for other people to judge. The very expression “putting saliva on it” is strange. I’m sure there are people, like the previous questioner, who feel uncomfortable without really knowing why. For them, the solution is simply to find a considerate man. But if you say that everyone dislikes it, or that it causes candidiasis and bacterial vaginosis, leading to expensive treatment costs every time, then it sounds as though most women who receive oral sex would be affected. By that logic, almost every woman would have candidiasis. Candida is actually a type of normal flora that even healthy women can carry. It can also be found on the skin and in various parts of the body, so there doesn’t seem to be much evidence saying that saliva is the cause. Rather, it’s generally attributed to factors such as hormonal changes or a weakened immune system. So I have to question the idea of leading people to believe that saliva alone is the cause. And when you call them “dirty old men,” I feel that merely exposes the questioner’s lack of common sense. I also wonder whether this chart, based solely on the questioner’s unsupported assumptions, is really appropriate. Are you going to claim that you alone are clean?

I’m Taro, a male member. Well, women produce bodily fluids too, and licking someone’s crotch can introduce E. coli into your mouth. If you’re naked and fooling around, you inevitably exchange some sweat, shed skin, droplets, and so on. That’s simply what happens when people become intimate, and I think humans are built to be fine even in environments full of ordinary bacteria. If it bothers you, you should tell your partner. Having sex without that kind of communication feels less like the spirit of a dating club and more like a seedy sex-service arrangement. Incidentally, if you’re going to use sex services, a short-time establishment like Tobita Shinchi probably carries the lowest infection risk: no kissing, no foreplay, condoms, lubricant, and a short duration. Maybe that would suit you better. That said, if I saw a male member licking his fingers while counting the bills when handing over an allowance, I’d definitely tell him to stop. Thank you.

I’m BB7, a male member. If you don’t like it, all you have to do is say, “S-t-o-p!” Every now and then, people with such a narrow-minded view show up, saying things like, “Everyone’s like that,” “Everyone thinks that,” or “I’m speaking for everyone.” I wonder if they’re all the same person.

I’m “Paper Airplane,” a male member who performs cunnilingus for his longtime girlfriend, even though I know deep down she doesn’t really want me to. So if she’s wet enough, you’re saying there’s no need for saliva on the fingers or cunnilingus, right? From a woman’s perspective, it’s more like: “Please make sure I’m properly aroused before putting anything in—whether it’s your fingers or anything else. In other words, get me wet first.” Personally, I can’t perform cunnilingus on someone I’m not close to—especially not the first time we meet. I’d rather do it when someone I’ve grown close to and care about asks me to, or when I genuinely want to express my affection that way and feel turned on. But for men, performing cunnilingus can really heighten the mood. Try to understand that feeling a little, too. P.S. It took about 15 years before my longtime girlfriend finally admitted that she doesn’t really like being licked much… And after another 20 years, I occasionally started hearing women’s honest opinions that even my wife had never been able to tell me.

I’m Kazu, a male member. If you both feel there won’t be a next time, then maybe it’s best for both of you to leave it at that. I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is something you should force yourself to do with someone you really dislike.