Do male members expect women around 40 to be experienced?
I’m a woman approaching my late 30s, and this is embarrassing to admit, but I got married without having much experience with men.
All of my past experiences with men were brief, and I’ve never really taken the time to be intimate properly, so I feel like I’ve never experienced sex in the truest sense of the word (or something like that).
I imagine being inexperienced can be charming in a younger woman, but is there really any demand for a woman in her late 30s who is like that, if we’re only considering the adult relationship aspect?
Of course, I assume it would be fine if she had other appealing qualities, but I’m worried that he might be disappointed when things actually develop into an adult relationship.
This is Nagato from the Tokyo office.
I realize it may be presumptuous of me to say this as a staff member, but a certain number of our members have rather unconventional tastes.
So even qualities you consider drawbacks may be exactly what some men are looking for in a woman. With that in mind, we hope you’ll feel free to apply for an interview.
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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
Thank you for your question.
> I’m worried that he’ll be disappointed when things eventually become an adult relationship (intimate).
I think you may be overthinking it.
I feel that men are more likely to be disappointed when, during intimacy, you say things like “I’m not comfortable with that,” or when their suggestions are rejected.
If you’re willing to give it a try, even if you’re not very experienced, that can actually make him like you more.
He may think, “I’ll teach you, so let’s learn together,” or simply appreciate your willingness to try.
Also, you may have strengths you aren’t aware of—perhaps you’re actually quite responsive, or you’re fun to talk to.
Everyone has something good about them.
If there’s truly no compatibility, the relationship simply won’t continue. In that case, analyze what may have gone wrong, make adjustments, and try again with the next person.
Nothing can start until you register. There’s not much point in worrying about what comes afterward, so I think the important thing is to give it a try.
At your age, I believe there’s still plenty of demand. Hopefully, you’ll start by coming in for an interview.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Of course, it depends on the person, but personally, I’m happy when a woman is good in bed.
I don’t think being good in bed necessarily correlates with the amount of experience someone has. To me, a woman who’s good at it is someone who genuinely wants to please her partner. Without that desire to satisfy the other person or curiosity about intimacy, even someone with a lot of experience may not be very good.
If a woman promotes herself as sexy and gives the impression that she’ll be good in bed, a man might be disappointed once they enter an adult relationship (intimate). But if she has other appealing qualities and approaches it with the attitude of wanting to learn because she doesn’t know much yet, I don’t think many men would be disappointed. People with a positive attitude are always attractive.
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