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Mar 21, 2021 09:15
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What he says and what he does don’t match, and it’s really frustrating.
He keeps trying to see me once a week for a low allowance, so I want to cut things off soon. But I’ve only just registered and don’t have a monthly arrangement yet, so I’m putting up with it for now.
Are people like this common in dating clubs?
I’m leaving out the allowance amount and class because people might accuse me of trying to drive up the going rate, but I feel it’s low.
A series of lies:
(1) “I’ll cover all your moving expenses. Tell me anything if you’re having trouble. If your monthly allowance isn’t enough to cover your rent, I’ll increase it.” → He gave me ¥50,000 separately from the allowance and said, “Buy some appliances with this (^ ^).”
When I told him my rent was high and asked him to increase the allowance, he said, “Your current allowance should cover rent at your level, shouldn’t it?”
(2) “I want to take you on lots of trips and give you all kinds of wonderful experiences.” → Okinawa and Taiwan, both in business hotels, and economy class for both flights.
(3) “It’s not like men who can’t be considerate of their partners join dating clubs, right?” → When I asked what kind of woman he likes, he said, “Someone who’ll see me once a week and fit her schedule around mine.”
And we meet at his place every time.
I’m always just about to tell him, “If you’re saving money on hotels, then increase my allowance.”
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Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thank you for your question.
> I just registered and don’t have a regular papa yet, so I’m putting up with it.
I think you just happened to encounter a strange man. There are a few men who constantly change what they say.
He sounds dangerous, so I think you should end things with him immediately.
Staying involved with someone like that will only lead to more unpleasant experiences.
You should break things off even if you don’t have another papa. If it’s taking a serious emotional toll on you and you’re also concerned that the allowance is too low, you shouldn’t put up with it.
I think you should tell him right now that you won’t be seeing him anymore and end things. Immediately.
It feels like you may be dealing with the worst person possible right now.
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Universe member
I’m Kazu, a columnist.
So, even though you’d only just registered, you went to Taiwan with your papa in economy class, despite tourism entry being prohibited. Did you claim it was a business trip and then spend two weeks in quarantine? If so, staying at a business hotel was unavoidable.
Though I suppose “recently” might mean more than a year ago.
As for your question, I don’t think all men are like that. And if all the men you meet are, maybe it’s because you’re giving off that kind of vibe. I think things will change if you work on no longer being someone who’s easy to bait.
I guess I’m also a respondent who’s easy to bait, though(笑)
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
That seems to be fairly common at Universe, though of course, there are plenty of people who are different.
I’d recommend going for an interview at SALON.