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Mar 18, 2021 21:54
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s Office, and I’ll answer this too.
Thanks for your question.
If he’s moving that quickly, I think it’s fine to ask. Actually, you should generally confirm the allowance beforehand; otherwise, you may end up thinking, “If that was the allowance, I wouldn’t have come.”
That said, some people do dislike being asked, so it can be tricky. It’s difficult, but I think it’s best to gauge their reaction and ask about the allowance while watching their expression.
In this case, I think there’s a good chance the allowance would be the same even for an overnight stay. If he hasn’t said otherwise, that’s probably what he means.
If you’re worried about asking, you could say something like, “We’ve only met once so far, so I’d rather wait until we’re closer before staying overnight.”
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
If you feel he’s moving too fast, you should tell him so. Judging from your question, this man seems like a dog in heat (lol). A man who lets his desires take over doesn’t have the emotional bandwidth to pick up on other people’s feelings.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
If you compare it to a marathon, going faster means reaching the finish line sooner, so I’m not sure how that applies here...
Just do whatever you like（笑).
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I don’t like women who bring up the allowance even while we’re together, so doing it over text is an instant goodbye for me.
That said, if you’re the kind of man who moves that quickly, you should probably bring it up first.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
You probably shouldn’t assume it’s just an overnight stay. There’s likely something unpleasant waiting beyond that, too.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
No one else can know exactly how you feel, so think about what you want to do.
I think it’s fine to ask about the allowance, though he might get angry and accuse you of being too focused on money. Even if he does, rushing things forward was his responsibility. And since you’ll have found out right away that he’s that narrow-minded, it’s only a benefit for you. Just imagine how devastated you’d feel if you stayed over without asking about the allowance and didn’t receive the amount you were hoping for. The answer should be obvious.