There’s a papa (a male supporter) I’ve only met twice.
We had sex the second time we met (with a condom).
After that, when I sent messages like, “Are you free on [date]?” he asked,
“Have you started taking the pill?” When I told him I hadn’t, he read the message but stopped replying, and I haven’t heard from him since.
What does this mean??
Also, is it normal for men like this to be around?
He’s simply a nasty guy.
What he means is, “If you’re not even on the pill, I’m not interested in you.”
Unless you genuinely feel, “From now on, I’ll make sure to take the pill for your sake, and of course I’m willing to go without protection,” you might as well end things immediately. There’s no reason to meet a man like that.
—Marika
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
If he asked, “Have you started taking the pill?” perhaps he had told you during your second meeting that he wanted you to take it next time.
That would make the situation add up. And if that was what you discussed last time, he may have decided that continuing the relationship would be difficult.
But in a way, it may be for the best that you didn’t meet again, since you wanted him to use a condom and your preferences didn’t match.
His way of handling it does seem lacking in kindness, but some people are like that.
Don’t let it get you down—keep looking for a good man.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> He asked me, “Have you started taking the pill?” When I said I hadn’t, he read my message but stopped replying and I haven’t heard from him since.
> What does that mean??
I think he was checking whether you had started taking the pill, and since you hadn’t, he decided he couldn’t invite you to meet.
> Also, is it normal for men like this to be around?
I don’t think it’s normal.
That said, he may simply be looking for a relationship with someone who takes the pill.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Did he tell you during your second meeting that he wanted to have sex without a condom or that he wanted you to take the pill? It sounds like he had no use for women who wouldn’t have sex without a condom.
He’s certainly pretty straightforward. But isn’t that better than having him drag things out and pressure you in bed when you meet? I also think it’s much better than someone who goes ahead and enters you without a condom even after you’ve told him to put one on.
If you’re asking whether that man’s behavior is normal, I’d say no. But if you’re asking whether men like that exist, I’m sure they do.
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