I’m starting to get a little tired of this kind of activity. I’m unsure what to do about the three women I’m currently seeing. Should I have an honest conversation with each of them and end things?
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Thanks for your question.
If you’re only a little tired of it, I think you’ll probably come back eventually. So, for that time, I’d suggest ending things with your current partner in a way that leaves the door open to getting back together.
You could meet her one last time, have dinner only, and give her about three times the usual allowance. Then say something like:
“I’ve gotten a little tired lately, so I won’t be able to see you for a while. But when I feel like being a papa again, I’ll get in touch—so go on a date with me then, okay?”
I think it would be best to part on those terms.
When you come back, you’ll probably look for someone new, but I still think it’s important to leave her feeling that you’re a good person.
If you give her an allowance without being intimate one last time, it will probably leave a lasting impression.
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Sometimes you only realize or understand certain things after ending a relationship, so why not try ending things with everyone? After that, you can either take a break from papa-katsu or start over—I think either option is fine.
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Teramoto from the Universe Tokyo branch here.
Thank you for your question.
I do think it’s important to be honest, but your partner likely understands how these relationships ultimately come to an end. So if you find it difficult to bring it up, I personally think it’s perfectly fine to simply fade out quietly.
Of course, it’s a different matter if you’re officially in a relationship…
Telling them may hurt their feelings, so sometimes “not saying anything and quietly fading out” can also be a form of kindness, I think.
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There’s a sense of emptiness that comes with meeting someone through an offer, or meeting through money, isn’t there?
You can get a high level of satisfaction right away, but is this really the kind of encounter I’m looking for? Or is it not an encounter at all? And yet, among those relationships, could there be some precious ones that feel like genuine connections? Which is it?
If you stop making offers, you’ll also be able to focus on the person you’re currently seeing.
Looking back on my life experience, meaningful encounters can happen anywhere—even in places where meeting someone or falling in love seems impossible. Miracles can happen, and bonds that last a lifetime can form.
If there’s a woman among the people you’re seeing with whom you’d like to maintain a lifelong relationship, I think you should talk things through with her. As for the others, it may be best not to contact them unless they reach out first. Since you don’t know how your feelings may change as time goes by, I don’t think there’s any need to rush into ending things.
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If you feel your relationship with her is only casual enough to simply fade away, then let it fade out. But if you feel you’ve built more of a relationship, I think it’s better to tell her that you’ve grown tired of this kind of arrangement—not that you’ve grown tired of her.
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