What do you think of a woman who arrives exactly at the meeting time?
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This is about dates after the first meeting.
For example, if you agree to meet at 6:00 p.m., she arrives at 6:00 or around 6:02.
Would that be seen as being careless with time?
Would it be better to arrive five minutes early?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Thanks for your question.
If you’re meeting at 6:00 p.m. and she arrives at 6:00 or 6:02, I wouldn’t call her chronically late. Some people may be bothered by even a two-minute delay, though, so ideally she should show up exactly at 6:00.
Anyone who calls that “being late” either has a strange concept of time or doesn’t understand how to use the word properly.
That said, if you try to arrive exactly at 6:00, you might end up getting there at 6:02 or 6:05, and it’s unpleasant when someone makes an issue of that. So generally, I think it’s best to arrive five minutes early.
That way, even if you’re delayed a little, you’ll still arrive by 6:00.
But then again, this is also a world where you can get away with being late if the other person likes you enough. So I think the important thing is how much they like you.
By the way, when ordinary men are late and say, “I arrived right on time,” it won’t get across because they don’t know about “Photography Club Time.” (笑)
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Teramoto from Universe Tokyo here—let me answer as well.
Everyone has different views on the value of time, so I can’t give a blanket answer. But one thing is certain: being early is always better received than being late.
I’m not sure whether you’re usually just barely on time or often a minute or two late—not only for dates, but in general—but it might be a good habit to arrive at least a minute before the meeting or agreed-upon time!
I once developed a bad habit of being late and had an absolutely terrible experience because of it. Ever since, I’ve made a point of arriving 15 minutes early...
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
> Is it better to arrive five minutes early after all?
For the second, third, and fourth meetings, it’s a good idea to message them, “I’ve arrived,” five to ten minutes beforehand.
Then you can gradually adjust to the time the man tends to arrive.
Were five minutes early just right? Too early? Exactly on time? Or would arriving three or four minutes late be better?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I have a pretty high opinion of women who arrive right on time（笑）
If they’re only about two minutes late, I’d say, “Well, that’s acceptable.”
Arriving at the meeting place later than papa (a male supporter) is “absolutely out of the question.”
If he’s strict, there won’t be a next time.
I usually get to the meeting place right on time, but my partner is almost always five to ten minutes late. I’m trying to drill it into her, but she seems to take it pretty lightly.
Her counterargument is:
“I keep telling you not to go yet, but you always get there too early. It’s fine to arrive later.”
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Personally, I wouldn’t consider being off by around that much—plus or minus 5 to 10 minutes—to be especially careless with time, but I think it depends on the person. How he feels about it probably depends on his industry and personality.
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